Well, I started this morning with my new outlook on life and it didn't last but 15 minutes......I pull out of my neighborhood and some lady is riding my ass and is trying to get around me. I make sure that she isn't able to get around me and that I go the speed limit, when I feel she is getting ready to pass me, I speed up so that she has to stay behind me.....I was loving it....but then I realized that I had already failed....So now I am tying to redeem myself for the rest of the day and not let anything else get to me and just think happy thoughts....
I really like what you guys are saying though..makes alot of sense. I think I just need a way to incorporate that into my life and I think I will be a much happier person.
I think one thing that would help, and JC just hinted at it strongly, is to step back and find some perspective.
There, but for the grace of God, go I.....
Next time you get angry at some one trying to pass you, forget how thier driving mkes you feel and try to step into their shoes for a minute. What is going on in her life that makes her need to get where she is going faster? Is she running late for work? Scared it may cost her her job? Maybe she is the only financial support for her family, maybe she has a terminally ill child, maybe she is just busy as fawk and isn't even thinking about tailgating you.
It doesn't make her actions right, but she is likely not trying to upset you, she is likely only consumed in herself. If we all took a moment and looked out for each other and thought about each other this world would be a better place.
I am my brother's keeper, as are you...no man is an island, etc. etc.
Everyone is selfish to some degree and none of us ever get over it totally, we are human after all. But you never know the cross that another carries, or their troubles. Look for opportunities to give folks a break, and it will often find its way back to you.
All that said, I am still a fairly cynical person, but try to temper it with tact. Sometimes I am not as successful at that as I'd like, but I do honestly try.
Nothing I or anyone is going to say on this message board is going to change your mindset right now, but a few years certainly will. You can look at some of your OT posts and see what is bothersome to you, and what is a "major" event in your life today. That is not a knock, you had a thread talking about moving and having some anxiety about your internet availability there...it was obviously a source of some concern for you (at least enough to make you start the thread) for many others who may have moved 5,10,20 times in their life that was a speed bump prorblem, yeah once you get moved in, it will sort itself out. But to you it was a source of some level of anxiety, so plenty offered advice or help. Others surely rolled their eyes, and thought "GEEEZ I wish my life was so great that I could be concerned about THAT."...its perspective we all have different levels of it at different points in our life.
If I can summarize my ramblings it is this, "Dont take yourself so seriously, no one else does."
