I need some female opinions.

Inferno

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Ok so basicly heres the deal. I work with this chick I have had a crush on since the 8th grade. And I recently told her about it. And well she has me confused as heck now. Basicly she told me if she wasn't with her bf she would get with me. That's what she said when I told her of the crush and well she found out the dudes been cheating on her and she said she's going to break up with him. Anyways skip ahead a couple of weeks and she kisses me(damn near crushing my skull from the ammount of force) and again last night we kissed only it was a little more intimate. However I overheard her today when one of the other co-workers asked if that was her man on the phone and she said yeah so now I am like WTF????? Seriously I mean whats going on here. I haven't had a chance to talk to her about it just wondering what other women think maybe going on as I have no idea when it comes to women. Only thing I know is wine them and dine them and you may get lucky.:D On a side note she also constantly flirts with me at work. She knows my spots and hits them anytime she has a chance, knowing full and well what it does to me and also knowing there is nothing I can do about it since I have always seperated my relationships from my work. It's getting really hard to do so too. There has been many times I had to stop myself from kissing her at work(while on the clock). I do flirt back but not hardly as much as she does.
Also yeah I know this is a 4x4 forum but everyone could use some relationship advice. :huggy:
 
tap it.

then stop talking to her....

thats the GUY thing to do.


If you really want my advice, stay away from this chick, she sounds like a nutjob.


or tap it, id go with that one if shes hot.
 
Yes if this were any other girl I would tap it and walk thus I woul not be making these posts. However, she has been a close friend of mine since the crush began. So there is no tap it and walk option. I'm shooting for the tap it and continue to tap it on a daily basis.
 
She used you to get back at him. she used you because she knows you want her
 
For your sake ( awww, heck...and ours) I hope one of the ladies do chime in.
The truth is we (Men) ain't got a clue as to what goes on behind those beautiful eyes. I've been married 17 yrs...dated her for 5 years before that, and I'm just making educated guess's.


Welcome to the wonderful world of women.


Matt:confused:
 
not sure how old you both are but that has a lot to do with this...

Women - i don't have a clue what they are thinking EVER, if you figure it out you'll be a rich man..

When it comes to these situations, always try to take the high road...

For example if she has a BF, you should always remind her of that. I realize you may not be thinking of long term with her, but if she's ok kissing you while she has a bf, thats not the girl you want around you...

So my advise is, ignore her, keep it professional, and if she keeps on you tell her she needs to dump her current BF before you will even talk to her..

just my .02
 
Write her a poem about how stupid it is that she has a boyfriend and still kisses you. Then quit talking to her. That will make her like you more.
 
NCJeepin said:
She used you to get back at him. she used you because she knows you want her
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ding ding ding

yager said:
if she's ok kissing you while she has a bf, thats not the girl you want around you...
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excellent point



If I had to guess you guys are both under 25...right?

Since the 8th grade you've had her on this pedestal and she gets more and more perfect by the day.....To the point that being human and making normal mistakes you might excuse others for making actually CRUSHES you.

She's going to destroy you any way you look at it.

If she's using you (psst, which she is) to get back at her boyfriend or whatever the hell HE is, then you'll feel used and didn't even get to BE used the GOOD way. If she is a head case and is DONE with this guy and moves on, there’s no guarantee that YOU will be who she moves onto.

Either way, in any event, the outcome is always going to be the same. She will disappoint you and you’ll move on. But like TELLING a child about a hot pot, a child never learns what HOT is until they TOUCH that pot and get burned.

My advice? Touch the pot!…..do all you can to win this girl at any cost. Get burned…get over it, and find a woman without any hang-ups, or one that’s gotten past that stage of her life and is ready for a “relationshipâ€
 
Inferno said:
On a side note she also constantly flirts with me at work. She knows my spots and hits them anytime she has a chance, knowing full and well what it does to me and also knowing there is nothing I can do about it
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BTW..... this is typical for ANY woman, whether they like you or not. Part of what makes a woman tick is the ability to attract, and sustain the attention of men. It's totally self serving and a form of self-affirmation and has nothing to do with you. Don't think you're special.....my guess is that in every area of life she has 2 or 3 guys stuttering after her because of her flirting
 
If you are under 25 just hit it and move on. Don't get older and regret the tail you let get away.
Your best answer could be found here myspace.com
 
From a girls point of view, she's playing you.

She knows you are an easy mark and we don't want what we can have easily, we want what we can't have.

My 2 C's for what it's worth
 
Didn't get a female opinion till the 12th reply...
 
Thanks all for the advice. It didn't acctualy have to be a females opinion just wanted to know from there stand point what might be going on in her head. As I(as most males are) am totaly clueless. As for pics I won't post them here but she has some on myspace And yeah I realized after posting that we were overflowing with women. :lol: Either way thanks again. Not sure what I will do as of yet cause like I said we are really close friends so I will not stop talking to her so guess I just live with the torment till I get burned.
 
Wife of 9 yrs, wheelin partner of 15 years speaking here:

OK so she has been your friend for years...what kind of friend plays games like that? Imagine yourself in the boyfriend's shoes, because if you and her hooked up, thats exactly where you will be. Girls like that (and I've been friends with many over the years) are only after the thrill of the hunt. Once they have you hooked, the interest dies, unless you can be of some service to her (hey can you take a look at my car while you're over here....do you mind helping me paint the bedroom....etc etc etc)

Once a cheater, always a cheater...you can try to make yourself believe that the relationship with you would be different, but just give it a little time, they always play out the same.

Have fun, just dont get attached, you'll agonize where she is and who's she's with the first night her cell phone rings and rings and she never answers.
 
I have a simple question, just for clarity.
Thus far, from what you have told us, your assumption that she is still "with" this other fellow is based on what you overheard after her phone conversation?

I'm proposing an alterate explanation, before you go and get all riled up.
Could it be that, when asked if that was him on the phone, if she just didn't feel likely explaining that "yes it was the same guy but they were no longer together blah blah blah etc etc". Maybe she just fell like getting into it and so just said "yes".
I don't pretend to understand women, but one thing I HAVE learned is that soemtimes if something is kinda complicated they just don't wanna talk about it.
 
dude...if uve had a crush on her since the 8th grade and she knows that...you're gonna lose. Even if she ends up liking you, she will likely never like you as much as you like her...you have had 4,5,6 years to virtually obsess and she hasnt...
But its easier to preach than to practice...but stop messing with her tell her you are done with these little games and you do like her, and if she likes you she can break up with that guy and figure out what you two could be

also, call her a bitch constantly and tell her you still like her even tho you think she looks like she has gained some weight.
 
Dude

Been there, done that...so take the advise here and don't get hung up on this chick.

Just hit it, then get up with her best friend and hit it too...

But don't ever call her and be all luvvy duvvy

Later!! Good Luck!!
 
She's 20?
Well...she's not looking to settle down...that's for sure...

Avoid her...
That always seems to make them want you more...if they ever wanted you in the first place...if they didn't...move on
 
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