Fully charged battery now. I left it unhooked all night (charged up yesterday). I had 12.7 v before I hooked it up. I reconnected everything, no big parasitic draw (just the <0.3A for the computer then settles to ~6 mA after a few seconds). I tried the starter and it started but died immediately. It fired just for a second or less I would say. Then I hit the key and it fired up and stayed running. I have 14.3V when running and all the accessories on. Seems the alt is putting out what it should. I shut it down, again no parasitic draw so it doesn't seem like the alt is drawing back after shutdown (bad diode idea seems like it is NOT my problem). I also did a diode test and it seems correct (put multimeter across the big post to the alt casing and I get nothing one way and a reading the other way).
So, how about the starter? I drove it for a couple minutes and parked it in the shed. After maybe 30 minutes I fired it again, and again it died right away. Then fired up OK after that. If the started is getting bad somehow, can that drain a battery quickly and kill it or not? Just trying to figure out which parts to pull off and take up to the auto store to test. Maybe I should take the starter? All I have is a multimter anything more sophisticated is beyond my equipment I guess.