You caught me in a talkative mood.
We are trying new brands all the time. The average heim is going to last a year or two before it has enough play to become noticeable. If you beat the
out of it often it could be a couple months. So far i've found that the high end FK's last the longest and are the tightest but they are wicked expensive.
We don't use 3/4 heim's on steering or in general anymore unless its a D30 or something small and they want a little stonger steering on the cheap. We use all 7/8 stuff since its only a couple bucks more. We have a lot better luck and longevity with that.
I don't know about the nascar stuff or the steel joints. I feel that steering is no place to slack on quality so we've always used the chromo.....there may not be that big of a difference, i'll do some research on that.
Those things you listed probably don't help matters much but fighting big out of round, non balanced bias ply(I know yours are radials) heavy tires sure don't either.
Steering geometry will definitely effect it if you have horrible angle and load the joint weird. Steering stabilizers are bandages for steering problems, they do smooth things out but you have to remember this is happening at the knuckles, not at the steering wheel so tire balance is going to have a lot to do with it.
Just try to keep them clean and shoot some WD40 or something like that pretty often and that will help give you a little more life. The bottom line is its a consumable like TRE's, they wear out.
Alex