What did all of you do to win? My girlfriends ex is threatening to take away our (her) little girl. He says that his attorney thinks he has a shot. What do they try to prove.....unfit household? We have a very fit household, non-smokers, no drugs, New house, her own room, a nice yard and so on. What cards will he play to win?
I moved out of my moms house when I was 14 and lived with my dad. He fought for 2 years prior to that and was losing, but in the state of Michigan, a 14 yr old can make the decision as long as the household is fit for a child. I loved living with my dad, but I gotta say I got into way more trouble because he was easier going than mom was.
From what I have always been told, you have to provide for the health, education and welfare of the child. That being said, it's a very broad venue of different things. Anything and everything can and will be brought out.
Out saving grace was document ion. And truth.
She had filled her attorney with so many of her lies, and had nothing to back it up. we told the truth about everything, and COULD back it up.
her past track record with finances, Her affairs with other men(while he was in Iraq) her dependences on drugs and drug addiction, and the habitual lies she told were the nails in her coffin. We had documentation of it all. Right down to yahoo conversation she had with a lover that was down right damning to her. I never thought the language used, could be used in a court of law. When the closing statement went something like, (not a direct quote but close) " your honor, what we have here is a woman that is a habitual liar, a whore, and a drug addict, who thinks she is a good mother."
I went through custody fight, but nothing like this. I was never worried about the well being of my kids with my ex. The best interest of the kids was to primarily stay with their mom. We decided together that we would have joint custody with primary residence being with her. Yes I paid child support, and did until this year. Why shouldn't I? They aren't free to raise.We worked together on visitation. Pretty well stuck with the schedule, and changed it only for reasons of work schedules, or best interest of the kids. We both would have things come up when we would want the kids on a weekend the other was to have them, we traded off, so it was a give give situation.
This type of arrangement was not going to happen in this case, she had kept the baby from him for over a month. She fabricated a story that he hit her, hit the baby, and he threatened her, so of course, he was went to jail. Something that will be forever on his record. She admitted to the DA, to the magistrate, and to Social services that she lied. But none of that matters, it's still on his record and will be forever. IMO she is about as low as a person can get. I have but one thing to say for her on the positive side. She sure does make a pretty baby!
