Anyone See a Counselor?

Cherokeekid88

Cherokeekid88

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So I don't think I am crazy or anything or depressed or have anxiety on a daily basis, but I do feel that there are things in my life that I need to learn to deal with and not get so bent out of shape about. Alot of times, if I feel underappreciated or not valued enough for the things that I do. I shut down and shut everyone else out. This goes for work and with my girl. I feel like I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can give me some advice.

Any of you guys a fan of Counselors or just a waste of money?
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
So I don't think I am crazy or anything or depressed or have anxiety on a daily basis, but I do feel that there are things in my life that I need to learn to deal with and not get so bent out of shape about. Alot of times, if I feel underappreciated or not valued enough for the things that I do. I shut down and shut everyone else out. This goes for work and with my girl. I feel like I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can give me some advice.

Any of you guys a fan of Counselors or just a waste of money?
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Start out with a trip to your family Doctor. Depression and anxiety are not to be taken lightly. Get some help before it gets worse.
 
For some reason...I usually get elected counselor for people in the office, people at home, friends, etc. etc. I have no idea why I take this position, because I'm probably one of the most arrogant and narcissistic people you will meet, but I guess I'm approachable. Anyway...I'm a firm believer in getting things off your chest and out of your head. When you do...you usually realize how petty you were being, and my typical prescription after that is a big ol dose of 'suck it up nancy'. I believe there are people out there that really do need help, and I believe talking is good stress relief...but I believe most folks are hypochondriacs and let their issues manifest into the form of 'problems'.
 
If you feel like you need it, do it.
Dont worry about what anyone else says.

I remember a friend in college telling me and a couple buds he was thinking about going to see a counselor because of similar feelings as those you expressed. Someone cracked a joke, and I suggested he needed to talk to "Jack" while holding a bottle of Old no.7 in my hand.

Two days later, he was found in his room with a gunshot wound to his right temple...not saying you are there. But if you feel you need help then get it. None of us are in your shoes.

Help can be a good friend. Help can be a professional. Help can be a break. But if you need help, get it.
 
I think Counselors are a waste, few beers, and a few good friends. Anytime Ive ever had something I had to get off my chest, it went pretty well over a few cold beers sitting in a buddies garage. If you feel your situation is extreme, sure, go to counseling, but personally they irritate me a bit, after going to them fairly often as a kid (ADD, Bipolar).

Each has their own personal experience, if you think itll help, go for it, I know alot of times venting to a stranger can help, not have to worry about your personal shit being brought back up, or thrown in your face.
 
Get me offroad and I'm fine. city life - rather be back out country and free from some of the stupidest rules and laws.

to answer your question: yes as a kid after my stepdad was killed (they never got anything out of me) well fast forward 4 deaths later, wife and crazy medical problems. Going to see one today to find out If I'm bi polar.
 
The ugly secret about psycologists is that they dont make money if they fix you. Repeat customers pay the bills.

You sound like you are looking in the right direction though, an open, unbiased ear to talk into. sometimes that's all it takes.
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
So I don't think I am crazy or anything or depressed or have anxiety on a daily basis, but I do feel that there are things in my life that I need to learn to deal with and not get so bent out of shape about. Alot of times, if I feel underappreciated or not valued enough for the things that I do. I shut down and shut everyone else out. This goes for work and with my girl. I feel like I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can give me some advice.

Any of you guys a fan of Counselors or just a waste of money?
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I think if you are having these issues bad enough to think you may need help, then go get it. From the outside looking in.... You just told us what you think your problem is in your post. This to me means that you see the issue and understand that there is a better way to deal with things. Next time you feel like you're gonna blow up about something, remember what you told us here in your post. I think if you realize that you have a problem then fixing it is no more than telling your self to handle it when it comes up.

I used to be similar. I'd get soo pissed off over stuff that shouldn't fire me up. I knew I was doing it! But when I was pissed I'd loose my temper and forget all about knowing I had a problem. My fix was when I'd get ill I had to tell myself it wasn't near as big a deal as I was making it. Don't get lost in the moment. Hope that makes sense.
 
I saw a counselor for a long time due to being mentally, physically, verbally, and psychologically abused as a child. It's a long story but the short of it is I had a step mother that beat me, treated me like crap, told me she hated me, called me names, and locked me out of the house on a daily basis until just before my dad got home from work ( had to use restroom outside like a dog). My mind blocked all of this for a very long but one night it came flooding back. Woke me up from a dead sleep, was so dizzy I had to crawl to the bathroom so I could get sick. This would happen off and on for years. Sometimes once a month but then sometimes six times a month but always with the same outcome except for the getting sick problem. The reason I'm saying all of this is because a few years ago I told my Dad what was going on and he had no idea at the time and was just finding out when I told him. He suggested seeing a counselor to talk about and get some advice on how to handle it. I suggested going to the woman's house and punching her in the face repeatedly of course he said uhh..not a good idea. So I started seeing a counselor at $75 a hour every other week and after about 3 months my episodes were about 75% cleared up and she gave me some tools on how to combat then and get rid of them all together. I can say now that I have not had an episode in about 2 years. So I say go for it before it becomes a very serious issue and it's to late.
 
XJfreakHO said:
I think Counselors are a waste, few beers, and a few good friends. Anytime Ive ever had something I had to get off my chest, it went pretty well over a few cold beers sitting in a buddies garage. If you feel your situation is extreme, sure, go to counseling, but personally they irritate me a bit, after going to them fairly often as a kid (ADD, Bipolar).

Each has their own personal experience, if you think itll help, go for it, I know alot of times venting to a stranger can help, not have to worry about your personal shit being brought back up, or thrown in your face.
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I dont agree with this at all. I joined a fraternity in college (Alpha Tau Omega). One of the brothers was a great guy, fun to be around, very funny, had no issues with ladies, no problem meeting people and making friends. Half our fraternity went to the same high school and had been friends for years, so he had plenty of good friends. He killed himself. No clue as to why, but in his case a few beers and a few good friends didn't change a damn thing. No one knew what he was going through, and no one would have ever known, not matter how close they were to him. 2 years later his brother would do the exact same thing, and they had pretty much the same personality. You could have met both of these guys at a party or something like that and would have never known that they would ever end their own lives.

I think part of the whole counselor thing isn't so much them "helping you" as much as it is that you know you took some initiative and helped yourself by admitting you have an issue, and seeking help on your own. That alone is a pretty empowering feeling.
 
you know, I don't feel this way everyday. I went to a therapist when I was in 4th grade because I got my first " F " on my report card and for some reason it triggered a mental breakdown. I would cry out of nowhere, I was paranoid that people were after me, my parents would literally have to walk me to my class everyday or I wouldn't go. There were times where My dad would walk me to class, I would sit in my seat for 30 seconds and then run out the door running back to my dad and when I saw that he was already gone, I would breakdown. I saw a therapist twice and I just so happen to snap out of it...never had another issue. I don't think what I am feeling is in any way serious or life threatening. I don't feel depressed, ( I have been depressed before) I just feel that I need to find a way to accept things and deal with things that might upset me. But I also fear that by going to a counselor, they might put things into my head to keep me coming back and me thinking something is seriously wrong with me.

I dunno.......
 
My wife just finished her masters degree in counsling. The one thing that she said during her studing over the last couple of years that stuck with me is this, "It is not the counslers job to fix your problem, but to help you figure out the ways that you can fix your own problem". This has been touched on by a couple of the other post & sounds like in the 4th grade a counsler helped you with that. A counsler is tought different tools to help you figure out what they have already learned & thus give you the self empowerment that you need to carry on by yourself. For the comment that they will just keep you coming back, well for some people it may take longer for them to figure out the tools needed.
 
This is the most useful thing I have to contribute:
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
you know, I don't feel this way everyday. I went to a therapist when I was in 4th grade because I got my first " F " on my report card and for some reason it triggered a mental breakdown. I would cry out of nowhere, I was paranoid that people were after me, my parents would literally have to walk me to my class everyday or I wouldn't go. There were times where My dad would walk me to class, I would sit in my seat for 30 seconds and then run out the door running back to my dad and when I saw that he was already gone, I would breakdown. I saw a therapist twice and I just so happen to snap out of it...never had another issue. I don't think what I am feeling is in any way serious or life threatening. I don't feel depressed, ( I have been depressed before) I just feel that I need to find a way to accept things and deal with things that might upset me. But I also fear that by going to a counselor, they might put things into my head to keep me coming back and me thinking something is seriously wrong with me.

I dunno.......
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I COMPLETELY know where you are coming from.
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
So I don't think I am crazy or anything or depressed or have anxiety on a daily basis, but I do feel that there are things in my life that I need to learn to deal with and not get so bent out of shape about. Alot of times, if I feel underappreciated or not valued enough for the things that I do. I shut down and shut everyone else out. This goes for work and with my girl. I feel like I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can give me some advice.

Any of you guys a fan of Counselors or just a waste of money?
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My life, & my Boss, re-enforces these feelings every day; I thought I'm supposed to feel this way!:huggy:
 
Ever since I was a child, I’ve always had a fear of someone under my bed at night.

So, I went to a shrink and told him, 'I've got problems. Every time I go to bed I think there's somebody under it. I'm scared. I think I'm going crazy.'

'Just put yourself in my hands for one year,' said the shrink. 'Come talk to me three times a week and we should be able to get rid of those fears.'

'How much do you charge?'

'Eighty dollars per visit,' replied the doctor.

'I'll sleep on it,' I said.

Six months later the doctor met me on the street. 'Why didn't you come to see me about those fears you were having?' he asked.

'Well, eighty bucks a visit three times a week for a year is an awful lot of money! A bartender cured me for $10. I was so happy to have saved all that money that I went and bought myself a new truck'

'Is that so!' With a bit of an attitude he said, 'and how, may I ask, did a bartender cure you?'

'He told me to cut the legs off the bed! - Ain't nobody under there now!!!'

FORGET THE SHRINKS.
HAVE A DRINK AND TALK TO A BARTENDER!
 
my exgirlfriend seeks help from a bottle. she has over a dozen suicide attempts under her belt. 3 in the 4 yrs ive known her.only dated her 2yrs. i just hapened to stop by her house and found her passed out with several empty pill bottles. no signs of anything going on beforehand. she is in therapy now from her last attempt in april. but she wont let go of that bottle
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
So I don't think I am crazy or anything or depressed or have anxiety on a daily basis, but I do feel that there are things in my life that I need to learn to deal with and not get so bent out of shape about. Alot of times, if I feel underappreciated or not valued enough for the things that I do. I shut down and shut everyone else out. This goes for work and with my girl. I feel like I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can give me some advice.

Any of you guys a fan of Counselors or just a waste of money?
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I just spill my guts every once in a while on boards like this, or complete strangers. It accomplishes the same thing as talking to a professional and is completely free. Every once in a while someone gets pissed off at what I say, but that's no different than actually listening to the advice of a professional in my opinion.

Feel better yet?
 
Yeah, I do. I have kind of realized that at least I can recognize that I do have issues that need to be addressed. I think talking to stragers about it makes me feel alot better than speaking to someone that knows me. Strangers have a tendency to be bold and honest with you, which I think a person needs in this type of state.
A couple people that I have talked to say that I need to be prescribed Welbutrin (I think thats how you spell it) thats its a mild medicine that helps you focus and tears away some anxiety......
 
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