Autism

NASH-TY-AMC

NASH-TY-AMC

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My youngest son was just diagnosed with autism,im trying to learn all i can about it. Im having a hard time dealing with it emotionally,thought that some people on here could relate and give a distraught father some advice.
 
no experience here, but my thoughts and prayers go out to you!! no need to stress bro it will be fine!!

scared to death!!!!!
 
NASH-TY-AMC said:
My youngest son was just diagnosed with autism,im trying to learn all i can about it. Im having a hard time dealing with it emotionally,thought that some people on here could relate and give a distraught father some advice.
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It's not the end of world. I have a good friend that there son has it. It is super smart( find what makes him tick, for example Alex can do a puzzle like its nothing. We had 45 shot try to figure out how to ring a bell. It took the other boys all day and they could not figure out how, he did it in five mins by pushing on the post). Always remember that he thinks in a different manor, be patient, and treat him as any other kid.... Pm me if you would like there number she is on a support group on face book for autism and would love to help you if she can...
 
snappy said:
It's not the end of world. I have a good friend that there son has it. It is super smart( find what makes him tick, for example Alex can do a puzzle like its nothing. We had 45 shot try to figure out how to ring a bell. It took the other boys all day and they could not figure out how, he did it in five mins by pushing on the post). Always remember that he thinks in a different manor, be patient, and treat him as any other kid.... Pm me if you would like there number she is on a support group on face book for autism and would love to help you if she can...
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thanks man, i appreciate it
 
My sister has Angleman Syndrome which is a form of cerebral palsy. The easiest way to describe it is she is like a 2 year old in a 21 year old body. She can't talk, but she can walk and loves to play with toys and shows great affection. She's very smart in her own way. The biggest blessing is she is always smiling and happy and knows no struggles or stress. While its very different than your situation, I can relate since I grew up with a sister like this. She requires 100% attention and care, and I personally believe that people like her and your son as well as other special people are just that... Very special. They have the ability to really touch your heart in a special way and I think God gives us people like this for a reason.
Your doing the right thing by learning as much as you can. As said before patience is the key here.
 
my son is 30years old and has cerebral pawlsey and he is one of the best teachers I have had in my life things like patience and tenacity are some of his best subjects
I have worked with all forms of developmental disabilities for years. I will help you any way I can just let me know. Also realize this is a journey that your whole family is going on and he will teach you things that will amaze you
 
Our 8 year old daughter was formally diagnosed with Autism when she was 3. She is high-functioning. Extremely smart, but her social skills are lacking. Look into all the therapy you can possibly get, you should qualify for some of it free. She got speech therapy starting when she was 2.5, and once she got formally diagnosed she became eligible for inclusion-therapy and occupation-therapy. Positive results from both. The therapists can even come to your home or school.

One important thing to know is that Autistic people see, hear, and feel things differently. Google the "Arthur" cartoon episode where he meets an Autistic school-mate and tell your family to watch it. It will help them understand what your son is going thru from a sensory standpoint.

Temple Grandin is an expert on Autism and is actually Autistic herself. She is a PhD. Her biographical movie is very interesting and will hopefully help you gain more understanding of how Autistic people tick.

Autism has a very large scale. I'm not sure where your son falls on the Autism scale. I am an engineer and there are about 200 engineers onsite where I work. I could probably point to about 3 or 4 of them that I would say are somewhere on the Autism scale, and I'll bet they don't even realize it.

I tell you that so that you will know a diagnosis of Autism is not the end, it is the beginning of your opportunity to give your son everything he needs. Take the time to learn about. Find out what therapies he qualifies for and needs, and get him those therapies.
 
Thanks for all the advice guys,its been challenging for my family. We are active in treatment, now that its official their are great programs for him. I have met and talked to some awesome people like yourselves. I think its going to be fine and my son will have a fulfilled life, we will not let this dictate his or our lives. After all he love riding in the Jeep.
 
my great nephew was diagnosed around the age of 3-4. he is now 23. my father raised him but really spoiled him because of this. which has made somethings with him having to grow up harder. he did graduate from high school in normal classes and is presently enrolled at wpcc. just like most have already said. the way their mind works is a lil different from ours. jacob is like most where he doesnt like to be touched and stays a lil with drawn if you dont interact with him. but there is so many stages of autism. some people you would never know was affected with the disease
 
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Autism has a very large scale. I'm not sure where your son falls on the Autism scale. I am an engineer and there are about 200 engineers onsite where I work. I could probably point to about 3 or 4 of them that I would say are somewhere on the Autism scale, and I'll bet they don't even realize it.
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Yeah, I know of several people who tested themselves as adults in their 30s and 40s and found out that they have an autism spectrum disorder. They just thought they were weird and had social anxiety and "OCD" issues. :lol:
 
VortecJeep said:
Our 8 year old daughter was formally diagnosed with Autism when she was 3. She is high-functioning. Extremely smart, but her social skills are lacking. Look into all the therapy you can possibly get, you should qualify for some of it free. She got speech therapy starting when she was 2.5, and once she got formally diagnosed she became eligible for inclusion-therapy and occupation-therapy. Positive results from both. The therapists can even come to your home or school.

One important thing to know is that Autistic people see, hear, and feel things differently. Google the "Arthur" cartoon episode where he meets an Autistic school-mate and tell your family to watch it. It will help them understand what your son is going thru from a sensory standpoint.

Temple Grandin is an expert on Autism and is actually Autistic herself. She is a PhD. Her biographical movie is very interesting and will hopefully help you gain more understanding of how Autistic people tick.

Autism has a very large scale. I'm not sure where your son falls on the Autism scale. I am an engineer and there are about 200 engineers onsite where I work. I could probably point to about 3 or 4 of them that I would say are somewhere on the Autism scale, and I'll bet they don't even realize it.

I tell you that so that you will know a diagnosis of Autism is not the end, it is the beginning of your opportunity to give your son everything he needs. Take the time to learn about. Find out what therapies he qualifies for and needs, and get him those therapies.
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I think my son has a mild case he loves to play and laugh but wont play with other kids. He is some what verbal, he can show you what he wants.
 
NASH-TY-AMC said:
I think my son has a mild case he loves to play and laugh but wont play with other kids. He is some what verbal, he can show you what he wants.
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That is similar to our daughter when she was younger. We taught her some simple sign language before the speech therapist got her talking. The sign language helped because she could communicate simple things without getting frustrated. She also would not play with other kids, but the inclusion therapy helped with that. She still prefers to play by herself, but she will tolerate playing with other kids for awhile, until they want to do something she doesn't want to do.

If loud noise is an issue, like it was and still sometimes is for our daughter, and you want to go to a movie, the movie theater at Concord Mills does "sensory films" sometimes on Saturday mornings. What that means is that the volume is not as loud and they don't turn the lights all the way down. And everyone in there knows why you and your kids are there, because they are in a similar situation, so nobody minds if kids are up walking around during the movie.
 
My mom taught Special Ed for 26 years and I met a lot of her students. As I was growing up, several of them were my age and I was around them a lot. I noticed very quickly that they're some cool people as long as you know what they like. As said, there is a vast spectrum as well and they're all different. I'm fairly certain that I'm mildly autistic, my mom even worked out my genealogy and determined that I was supposed to be according to certain traits in our family. I also didn't learn to speak until I was over 3 years old and sometimes I find myself being very sensitive to loud noises.

You could always find out that your son is dearly infatuated with off-roading and he could grow up to be one of the best fabricators and rig builders we've ever seen! Just help him with whatever he decides that he likes and be active with him! It's not a bad thing, it'll just show you another perspective on life.
 
Hi Guys... We have a brother-in law Mark, who we have near us (now). He is 41 year old. He is a brother, to Valerie. This will be a long story so please bear with me.. (Yes, i had a stroke) .
We went and got him because his mom died and he was in an nearby apartment, about 5 years ago... He's ok, does what have wants most of the time.. But these "odd" things that happen from time to time...
You just got to deal with it.. He caulked him self in his (old) apt. Why ? He just did... Best guess hes about 12year old... We had him IQ'd and he actually did better than we that.. The test says he's 100 (what ever that worth)...
But he also rate very poor at other things... He hates working.. "I don't like being told what to do..." I say that's ok Mark, my boss tell me all the time, that i don't like it, but i have to do it.. If i still want to make the pay check.....
And that another grasp he has... boss = listen We working on that.... Not his old story... He said, I hate em..... I ought quit... He will really need me.... (now you should say i don't get it? He just a janitor)
No Mark... it not how thing work....and repeat ........

It takes about 10 min and your figure it out, just by talking to him.... He not that bad..... but...
He lives on his own... But i give it another 10 years top... He will need someone more constant over him..

-mike
 
You can look into the Autism Society of North Carolina. A simple search of Autism NC on google will pull up quite a few results. My sister works with people with disabilities, and said if you need to ask anything just shoot me a message. Try to help any way possible. Take it one day at a time. He is still your son, love him regardless!
 
I actually took two online AQ tests and scored 32 and 35 on them.
 
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