Before saying anything else, I feel compelled to disclose my own and family history... both of my parents are from W TN, I was born in VA, lived in SC until 8, then NC until I was 32. I consider myself a Southern Boy, never lived above the M-D line. I am proud of my Southern upbringing. The tea and BBQ up here is terrible.
For those that know me, and my last name... you'll find that 90% of folks on this end of the country by the same name are not white. Reason being... at one point my ancestors were one of the largest single-family owners of plantations on the east coast. There's an old giant one just outside Lexington. On name registration days after the EP, it is documented that some locales were inundated w/ black folks taking on my last name.
So you can guess... my family had a lot to lose due to the EP, and some high stakes in the whole Confederacy movement, even aside from the slavery issue.
Knowing all this, and my beloved life in the South which I often miss (not so much on hot summer days!), I have many mixed feelings about the confederate flag.
I agree w/ Ron - it is a tremendously powerful symbol. A symbol of rebellion and standing for your belief. A symbol of a steadfast love of what you believe to be you country being taken away by others. A symbol of the right of the local/state government against a far-off Federalist approach.
And, a symbol of hundred of thousands of deaths. Literally men committing their life to standing up for what they see as their country.
How can you not respect and stand in awe of that?
I have tremendous, tremendous honor and respect for the Confederacy.
BUT - the truth is, they lost the war. The confederacy is no longer a movement. Nor should it be. Should it be forgotten? no. But that is in the past, and times have changed. That flag has now become a symbol of something that is distorted and different from the original meaning, bastardized from the intent. Unfortunately it is seen by many as a symbol of racism, and is (sadly so) offensive to many, many folks.
I personally believe that it is simply not appropriate to use in any manner that appears to be sanctioned by our a state government (e.g. capitol building). Let it remain a prominent museum piece. Leave it flying high at all the old Confederacy posts. People w/ family heritage from teh Confederacy, if the ywant to fly it, in their own person space, in their own way... fine. But we should not be sanctioning it at a government level, just as we should not be sanctioning prayer.
And, people flying the flag must recognize that, even if they do not agree with it, or think it's stupid, the flat fact is that there are people whom are really bothered by the flag. Not because of what it really meant, but how they perceive it - that fliers are rebels and racists. That opinion/interperetation may be wrong... but it happens, and will continue to happen. So when/if you fly the flag, you should be prepared for this. Just like I decided a long time ago to grow my hair out and stop shaving, I must accept that now people will (mistakenly) assume I am a stoner. It's just how the world works.