Living with a pregnant wife

An important moral from us w/ preemie babies...
Don't wait on getting shit set up.
Jonas was born a week before his primary baby shower was scheduled, and we hadn't really finished setting up the room yet. No crib, dreseer, etc.
A friend donated an older dresser, another friend took it and sanded/refinished it for us. Luckily friends came out of teh woodwork to supply stuff, and since he was in the NICU was got a little reprieve to finish getting ready before he actually came home.
But these days anything < 4 weeks, they just send 'em home.
His early delivery was basically just a fluke random occurrence, never figured out why.

So don't dally, b/c you never know when that little booger might decide it's time to get the fawk out of there.
 
RatLabGuy said:
An important moral from us w/ preemie babies...
Don't wait on getting shit set up.
Jonas was born a week before his primary baby shower was scheduled, and we hadn't really finished setting up the room yet. No crib, dreseer, etc.
A friend donated an older dresser, another friend took it and sanded/refinished it for us. Luckily friends came out of teh woodwork to supply stuff, and since he was in the NICU was got a little reprieve to finish getting ready before he actually came home.
But these days anything < 4 weeks, they just send 'em home.
His early delivery was basically just a fluke random occurrence, never figured out why.

So don't dally, b/c you never know when that little booger might decide it's time to get the fawk out of there.
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You can say that again! Funny thing is, we just finished painting the nursery the night her water broke. Finished at 10 and went to bed. Her water broke around midnight.
 
Oh yeah ..... I forgot about the "calling you at work" thing.

Me: whacha need sweetheart, I'm real busy.
Her: I just wanted to call and tell you I'm leaving work.
Me: ooooook

Me: Hey honey, what's up. I'm busy
Her: Hey ........ <sniff>
Me: yeah, whatcha need?
Her:I saw a dog <sniff, sniff> hit on the road <sniff, sniff> on the way home ... WAHHHHHHHHHHHH!, boohoo, etc.

Me: hey honey whacha need?
Her: I'm home.
Me: <sigh>

The bad thing ... me and 2 other guys at work all had kids within 3 months of each other .... the overlapping period, one of us was always on the phone.

Matt
 
I'm just curious, all bc I'm planning on proposing next year, but did any of yall get engaged around the age of 23? Too young? Bad idea? Wish you would have done anything different? I dont think there's many college kids on here like myself
 
Hunter44 said:
I'm just curious, all bc I'm planning on proposing next year, but did any of yall get engaged around the age of 23? Too young? Bad idea? Wish you would have done anything different? I dont think there's many college kids on here like myself
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Engaged at 24, married at 26, divorced at 31. The right age for everybody is different one size doesn't fit all. Nobody can tell you what is too young.
 
I got married at 23. Me and the Wife have a great relationship. Can only remember one time we were even mad at each other. Been married 4 years this September.
 
Hunter44 said:
I'm just curious, all bc I'm planning on proposing next year, but did any of yall get engaged around the age of 23? Too young? Bad idea? Wish you would have done anything different? I dont think there's many college kids on here like myself
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I'm surely going to be on the older side of this question. I was 35 when I got engaged and married, and 36/almost 37 when my boy was born. Statistics will show that the divorce rate is lower for people who get married later, but everybody is different, so it might work for you. I was very immature when I was younger, and not ready for marriage and kids.
 
I got engaged at 24, married at 25. We dated for 4.5 years before getting married. 7 years later and she still puts up with my crap. If I could change anything, I'd have gotten married and had kids sooner.
 
We got married at 38/39...no kids. No college fund. Retiring at 52 this year.
 
We've been together 4.5 years and very rarely argue. A lot of my friends have already gotten engaged and my girlfriend has been bugging me about a ring for almost a year. We're both in college, I have my 4 more years of graduate school left to get my PhD in Pharmacy and she has 8 left to get her doctorate in psychiatry
 
Hunter44 said:
We've been together 4.5 years and very rarely argue. A lot of my friends have already gotten engaged and my girlfriend has been bugging me about a ring for almost a year. We're both in college, I have my 4 more years of graduate school left to get my PhD in Pharmacy and she has 8 left to get her doctorate in psychiatry
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Dont get her a ring just cause she thinks she needs one, that will never end good
 
Hunter44 said:
I'm just curious, all bc I'm planning on proposing next year, but did any of yall get engaged around the age of 23? Too young? Bad idea? Wish you would have done anything different? I dont think there's many college kids on here like myself
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I waited. So should you. My wife never bugged me about rings or marriage or any of that other BS. I made the decision to ask her. If I felt pressured I probably wouldn't be married today. To me it had to feel right. Like it was my decision because it does take 2 people (captain obvious here) to make it work. If you're not ready to pull that trigger you shouldn't. To hell with a bunch of pressure and keeping up with the Jones'.
 
I got married last year at twenty five, wifes 29. She was a single mom with a 1-1\2 year old with no dad in the picture.
I love my wife and we get along great minus the pregnancy side effects right now lol. That little girl is the second most love of my life, she thinks I hung the moon and doesn't know I'm not her dad. Getting married has been the best decision I've made outside of devoting my life to God. I believe she was a gift from Him and an answer to my prayers.
Timing is not the same for everyone.
 
Loganwayne said:
Dont get her a ring just cause she thinks she needs one, that will never end good
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This...the last one was token small town USA with all of her friends getting married out of highschool or early in college. She gave me the "you don't need any more toys til I get a ring" speech one night and it was short lived after that. I'm not sure whether it was the fact I bought my CR250 a week after that night or the fact that I just frankly am good at doing whatever the fawk I want. Either way, her hightailing it out of my life freed up the finances to buy my Dodge and rig a little earlier than planned. :lol:
 
Ok , for all the parents to be. The wife and I ordered a crib from waifar a month ago. It arrived with a few dings on the head board. I called them and they said to toss it and they sent us another one. If anyone needs a convertible crib for their new arrival let me know. I'm located in Burlington, and drive to Raleigh every day. You can pick it up here for free. We would like to give it to someone that will use it, not someone that's gonna sell it.
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for those of you expecting, remember this,

When in the delivery room, there will be all sorts of monitors and graphs to watch as things progress, DO NOT under any circumstances say WOW !, or HOLY SHIT ! in response to anything you may see on a monitor or graph, keep a POKER FACE the WHOLE fucking time, only let emotions show once you know the process is done and you have received your bundle of joy.

We were in delivery, she'd had an epidural, she felt NOTHING but the urge to pee, which they would not let her do. monitors all hooked up, things progressing nicely, you could watch the contractions happen on the monitor, she couldn't feel them so much because of the epidural. there are markers of strength of the contractions, near the end, the contractions went off the chart..... this being all new and interesting to me, I was watching intently, and let a "Holy Shit" escape.... there was no peace in the room after that as things got really busy from there. it wasn't until the next day I could explain to my wife why I said what I did, still wasn't a good enough explanation, and 12 years later still get reminded of it....

You've been warned
 
Hunter44 said:
I'm just curious, all bc I'm planning on proposing next year, but did any of yall get engaged around the age of 23? Too young? Bad idea? Wish you would have done anything different? I dont think there's many college kids on here like myself
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We met in college, actually my first semester (her 2nd year). Dated all through college. It was clear I was going to grad school at God-knows-where, she made it clear she wouldn't just follow me w/o a ring. Which is totally fair IMO. We got married at 22/23. Been >16 years since then, so we've known each other > 1/2 our lives now.
We both agree that we were probably too young, and both agree also that it would have been nice to have dated a bunch of other people first, then met up a few years later, "got it out of the system".
But we're a great match and have a great relationship. Had fights? yes. Had moments she wanted to kill me, and vice versa? Yes. That's part of teh deal.
IMO what "works" age-wise is different for everybody. What really matters is that you view it as a serious, major lifetime commitment so matter what, and do everything you can to make it work. Shit happens, but it can work out.

BTW, I was in grad school a long-ass time too. 7 years, then 2 post-docs afterwards. She taught up until we moved here to MD for the 2nd one. Our first son Jonas born while I was still in grad school. Yes it was tough, but we made it work. It's possible. We didn't want to be really old and dealing w/ young kids. I know multiple people that had kids in grad school. Yes it can work.
 
shawn said:
Or... there won't.

It's really your choice.
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lol Delaney was born so quickly they didn't even have time to boot anything up.
Nurse 1: We need to turn on the scope
OBG: Um, don't bother, I can already see her legs coming out.

People been bein' born since well before we had all the fancy meters & stuff. It kinda just happens.
 
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