Theres no specific torque setting (unless you have a solid spacer in there or something) Otherwise its tighten it enough to create the proper amount of preload on the pinion bearings.
The proper way if its loose is to remove it and put a new crush sleeve in.
If your trying to bandaid it you can 'try' to tighten it up a little and see if it holds.
Usually they 'loosen' when the crush sleeve, compresses more and creates slop.
To set the crush took me a 6' cheater bar on a 3/4" drive bar, and a good way to hold the yoke.. Books say somthing like 500-600# to start it crushing..
If you can't do it, or find anyone locally to help, your welcome to stop over, its a 15min job with the right size bar and a way to hold it.. I made an 'insert' to go in my receiver hitch and bolts to the yoke.