stay or go??

stay or go

  • Move out, improve the image

    Votes: 6 42.9%

  • It ain't gonna matter, stay where you are

    Votes: 8 57.1%
  • Total voters
    14
  • Poll closed .
GotWood

GotWood

Sayer of Fact
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Jan 12, 2007
Location
Maiden, NC
Ok, I'm going for custody of my little girl in court sometime before school starts. Not getting into details, I went through this about 2 years ago and lost. The x had no job, no car, and nowhere to live unless she lived with her dad or a boyfriend. Now she is back with her dad, again and my daughter is living in a single wide trailer, in an 8x11 room with 4 other adults in the house. X just got her first real job and borrows a car.
My girlfriend and I presently live together, and my daughter has her own room and bathroom, friends, and a city park 21' from the house. The last time I was in court for this, I had lived alone for 3 years and owned my house. When I lost custody, I sold my house and moved here, closer to my daughter.
Anyway, the real question is, should my girlfriend move out to make a better image, or does it really matter?
 
Ever think about calling social services to "check in" on the caretaking of the little one? Just a thought. The other thing you probably better do is hire an attorney.
 
Lawyer and girlfriend think she should move out, I don't think it matters. social services and all that shit don't really matter at this point. just the move out for the look matters at this point, and it's just a general poll.
 
I mean if you are fighting for custody, wouldn't it make sense for the girl to at least have some sort of mother figure around?

I wouldnt see why it would be detrimental if you can prove you and the GF have a stable relationship, and it as been that way for sometime, and will continue to be that way.
 
thanks mac, and by the way, gf's mother says the same thing
 
keep gf around, make sure she stays around (long term relationship) that looks good for you. Stability is key. And as said above have female person around for a mother figure. Any hasty last minute knew jerk changes definitely wont look good. And as said GET A LAWYER !!!
 
Man, This is NC and dads have no rights. Do what the lawyer says and hope for the best. Besides your girl can live there and no one will know unless you tell them. I cant vote because I dont have enough experience,. You have a lawyer to help and tell you what to do so there you go
 
lovin the advice guys, keep it coming. please vote though.
 
Just a random thought, but isn't co-habitation technically illegal in NC? You might wanna check on that seeing as it could throw a huge monkey wrench in things...
 
NC is a non-common law state, if that is what you mean. Oral sex is also illegal here
 
Na, I mean isn't the act of co-habitating illegal, like guy and girl living together outside of marriage? I remember hearing somethin like that sometime but I'm not really sure.
 
Reed said:
Just a random thought, but isn't co-habitation technically illegal in NC? You might wanna check on that seeing as it could throw a huge monkey wrench in things...
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Not anymore, it was deemed Unconstitutional back in '06, but only by the NC Supreme Court.

Mississippi, Virgina, Florida, North Dakota and Michigan are the only states who still have a law criminalizing co-habitation.

AND oral sex is perfectly legal in NC, as is any other type of sex. The US Supreme court struck down any and all state laws involving sodomy (which includes, anal sex, oral sex, and bestiality) back in '03. Previous to that, it was illegal in NC, punishable by 10 years in prison and/or numerous fines.

Every thing I just mentioned hinged on the Lawrence v. Texas case.
 
rattlecanpaint said:
Ever think about calling social services to "check in" on the caretaking of the little one? Just a thought. The other thing you probably better do is hire an attorney.
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There is some wise advice here, if you can figure it out....

Ive been in more divorce courts than Id wager anyone here (My mom has been married 17 times now, cant tell ya how many of those were when I was at home) and no way in hell would I offer advice. You are paying a guy $150 an hour, he probably plays golf and drinks with the judge who makes the decision, at worst they know each other, follow his advice.

If your attorney is a good family law attorney tell him you want FC no matter what it takes, tell him to be ruthless, most hold back because they know what they can do to someone...

But from an outsiders perspective, it sure would be easy to spin this as the caring mother who was tossed into the street and forced to go home to her folks and provide a loving nurturing family environment with GPs on site vs. a man who is shacked up with the dirty little secret that ended the marriage of the little girl's parents in the first place...

[I AM NOT SAYING ANY OF THE ABOVE IS TRUE, ONLY SAYING THAT IS HOW IT WILL BE PRESENTED]
 
blazeproc said:
Man, This is NC and dads have no rights.
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I watched a man lose custody of his kids to his self-admited crack addicted homeless ex even though he was a professor at one of our major colleges and owned his home.

I lost custody of mine because the court "did not know my address" (yes... the papers have "address unknown" on them) to serve papers to me so I was not in the courtroom the day the hearing was. Yet, one week later, I recieved the court findings and ruleing in the mail by certified letter. And, any Lawyer I talk to about this wants anywhere from $2500 and up to even LOOK at the papers.

North Carolina f%#$*^g sucks when it comes down to fathers rights.

My advice, get the girlfriend and your kids, pack up all your stuff, and head to another damn state.
 
But your honor, 8 guys on a 4x4 website agreed with me....

Hows that Guiness commercial go...

Ignore a lawyer and trust the 4wheelin' site......BRILLIANT!....
 
my wife just graduated from UNCG with a human development & family studies degree. this is her take on the situation:

"Last minute jerk decisions are not the best way to go. The judge is going to take into account that you care about the general well being of the child. Unless the child is being put in physical/emotional harm, or being neglected by any of the people you spoke of, you're not going to have solid grounds to prove that you are a better place to be. Granted, this woman (the X) seems unstable, which leads me to believe the general well being of the child is in jeopardy. You have to prove to that judge that she is better off being in a stable place, with you. In order to do that, you'll have to come out with your guns blazing. Fight for what you believe is right. Very few fathers show interest in raising their child alone. I know you have a gf, but the judge will see it as you raising the child alone. Unless that gf all of a sudden becomes your fiance or wife, then you'll still be looked at as a single father. Go for it! You seem to have a good case for custody, but their are pieces missing from the story that you haven't given us. This is the best advice I can give with what was written."

Hope this helps.
 
AND oral sex is perfectly legal in NC, as is any other type of sex. The US Supreme court struck down any and all state laws involving sodomy (which includes, anal sex, oral sex, and bestiality) back in '03. Previous to that, it was illegal in NC, punishable by 10 years in prison and/or numerous fines.
Every thing I just mentioned hinged on the Lawrence v. Texas case
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Nice now beastiality is legal WTF were they thinking. Cant be....:shaking:
 
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