That one person that always tries to "one up" you.

Don't let it bother you, and I promise you that will be your best revenge. Do you really care that he has a better gun that you? Or nicer shoes? Or bought a bigger engagement ring? If you do care then maybe you have as much of a problem as he does. It sounds like he is a huge douche, but it must be hell to be that guy. Think about it; going through life with no real drive of your own other than to keep up with someone else, to live constantly in the shadow of someone else's ambition. Does that sound like he is really enjoying anything? Does it sound fun to have to live your whole life putting up a false front for all of your peers to judge you by, constantly afraid that they will start to see the cracks in the facade? When does that get fun? It's a really sad existence. I know a few guys like that and I honestly feel sorry for them.

As for the wedding, sure, that may be one more douche move, but so what? You've clearly come to expect that of him. You know you're dealing with a snake, so stop being surprised and hurt when he acts like a snake. This snake is now part of the family and you're going to be dealing with him for a long time. You can't control what he does, you can only control what you do, and if you let his actions get you all twisted then you are the one losing in the long run. So don't let it bother you. Laugh at his dumb ass when he buys something that he has no interest in just to one up you. Also, in the hierarchy of big life moments wedding trumps moving into a new house every time. So go to the wedding and delay your move for one day, your house will still be there.
 
Yeah I Understand that about the wedding over the moving into a new house, but the principal was that they knew when we were closing and moving into our house and they probably knew that a wedding trumps over moving into a house.....they didn't take a honeymoon, so they could have honestly gotten married any weekend, the got married in their neighbors back yard.....
I try not to let stuff get to me like that, but I just like being my own person and I try not to get on the bandwagon of things just because its "whats in" at the time.
Just hard to be that way when you always have someone who wants to have what you have but better....
 
Maybe I was wrong about suspecting he might think your not good enough for his sister, maybe he is insecure and actually realizes you are the better man/person than he so he has to try to best your achievements to make himself feel like he is better, or appears so to the rest of the family ?............Or it could be all his fiance's doing????
 
OK, I have a solution to your problem.

Every time he say's something you don't like just say, " that's not what your sister said when I was putting it to her"
 
I have gotten to the point where I just don't talk about stuff with him anymore. I talk about generic things and offer no glimpse into my life because its mine and not his. I keep all of my personal belongings private and try not to give too much info out when he is around.
 
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