I checked both mounted and dismounted .with the tire mounted on the vehicle - it measures 33.5 inches.... I took out the brand new spare tire and measured it = 34 and 1/8 inch. ( that is the dismounted size)
Saying that a 35 inch tire is 33.5 because you're measuring the loaded radius with the vehicle on the ground is meaningless. Yes, a tire is not the nominal diameter anymore when you inflate it to some pressure, and mount it at some camber, and put a heavy vehicle on top of it. It's like saying you bought a 15 inch coil spring, and then you installed it on the car and now it's not 15 inches anymore...
Wrap a tape measure around the tire (not across the tire) and do the math to get diameter from circumference; that's what your tire diameter actually is. You'll be closer to your rough 34.125 measurement, which is still not 35 inches but at least it's not a meaningless loaded radius measurement.
If you're setting your gearing based on nominal tire class sizes (35 inch, etc.), you're going to be disappointed when things don't match up the way you want. That's just being realistic..
You can usually find specs on whatever tire you want, so you can find the actual diameter if you're going to try and adjust your engine RPM just from changing models of tire... It sounds like you need different gearing though, not different tires. A different 35 inch tire isn't going to change RPM that much, and you still won't know what the loaded radius will be until you buy them, inflate them, and load them up.
In other words, if you're trying to change highway RPM, you can't just put "35" into a gearing calculator and expect accuracy.