what the F man?

lowestjumperTJ

lowestjumperTJ

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so the wife left last week, went home for several days, then BEGGED ME to come see her while I was back home for the weekend...so what did I do? I gave in LIKE I ALWAYS DO and went to see her at her mom's for the night. she ended up coming back to Fayetteville Sunday night. she got her new phone this week (Blackberry) supposedly for free. she goes through my phone CONSTANTLY and reads my emails, texts, looks at my call logs, etc. and bitches about how I have female friends or whatever....yet, tonight, I brought a couple of my boys home from work to hang out or whatever....later on, I find out that while they were here, she had texted one of her friends back home and said something along the lines of "omg Kelli this guy that's at my house is HOT! I don't think I should be left alone with him blah blah blah"


I mean come the F on man, this is my boy from work...and you're sitting right in front of me sending this text to your friend...how fucking stupid are you, really? she used to say that she hoped I'd never be stupid enough to sit in front of her and send girls text messages...yet she can do it? wtf?


//end rant.
 
1-tonmudder said:
Looks like it's time to move on.
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yup....it's a life lesson i wish i hadnt had to learn the hard way....something just dont get better. Let go and find something that is better, not that you want to be better.
 
It's been my experience (not personally though) that when one is checkin up on the other,the checker is usually doin something that they aren't supposed to.
 
I mean, how am I supposed to be around my buddy now? he doesn't know any of this has happened tonight...I don't want any awkwardness between us...or am I just overreacting over the whole situation?
 
It was not your buddy's fault if he did nothing wrong. No offense, but it could have been anyone there that she would have said that about, buddy or not.

Definitely time to move on, I know that's not what you wanna hear.
 
yeah, I'm not mad at him by any means. he's a great guy. she's voluntarily sleeping on the couch tonight...I'm thinking about telling her to leave again while I'm at work tomorrow because I just can't take this...and I definitely don't need to be dealing with crap like this right now with a deployment coming up.
 
dont get married is my motto. ladies are scandelous. if shes gonna do that in front of you around your friends you think she would be faithful while your deployed? wise up bro, denial isnt just a river in Egypt. was she drunk? how long yall been married?
 
1-tonmudder said:
It's been my experience (not personally though) that when one is checkin up on the other,the checker is usually doin something that they aren't supposed to.
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bingo..... Man i'd set her right up with your friend, seems to make the divorce process go that much easier you won't get hastled over the small shit...

bottom line moving forward, just say no...
 
Kick her out now. From what you posted above, she isn't the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is time to move on.
 
Definately get rid of her before your deployment. I hate to see relationships break up, but you really dont want to do it over the phone. There is so much stress being deployed anyway. Is this your first deployment?
 
Like someone else said...the one doing the checking is usually being pretty shady themselves. If she's doing this while you're around it makes ya think what its going to be like when you are deployed. You don't want to be that guy that gets a video from his wife while on deployment...seen Jarhead?
 
yager said:
bingo..... Man i'd set her right up with your friend, seems to make the divorce process go that much easier you won't get hastled over the small shit...
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Best advice yet.. seriously. That way, you get to keep what's yours and don't have to pay alimony.
 
Here is the thing, if you decide this is not who you want to be with, you have to act fast and methodically. If she volunteers to go stay with her mom again, let her go, and help her pack some of her crap up. Then you need to get a hold of a divorce attorney quick. He will probably tell you to change the locks while she is gone, that way she is not allowed in the house without you or one of your representatives there. Sorry to hear all of this man, it sucks.

BTW, like with all soldiers, I appreciate what you do for our country
 
bingo..... Man i'd set her right up with your friend, seems to make the divorce process go that much easier you won't get hastled over the small shit...
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I'd do exactly this! Alimony sound like a bia to me. To be honest though you both sound like you need to grow up. If you don't have anything to hide just hand her your phone and say have a blast.......
part 2) don't be alone with her. She sounds alil nutty and you don't need her saying you were violent etc in the future. I made sure when me/my ex talked it was in a public place or I had someone unbiased there to observe.
part 3) Don't change the locks until you have a seperation agreement. It goes torwards the fact that right now she has abandoned the marital residence but if you change the locks before its in writing you could be in deep :poop: for keeping her out.
part 4) do you have kids?
part 5) take all your money that you feel entitled to. Don't take every penny but make a new account and don't tell her anything such as what bank etc. Protect yourself! The only people that don't protect themselves are the ones crying a year later that they got fucked.
part 6) CALL A LAWYER! You have no idea how many ways she can bend you over even if you don't own shit or make shit. When people say their ex's took everything they mean it!
part 7) videotape/tape pictures of your friend taking her out/banging her/whatever you can stomach. Make sure its enough to prove its cheating! If you don't have it on paper its just hearsay and biased testimony.
 
I hate to tell you this, but as a female myself, I can pretty much guarantee you that she's already cheated on you before and is just looking for her next opportunity. Trust me! I know how females think! She's just getting sloppier about hiding it now 'cause she thinks she's got you wrapped around her finger.

Kick her nasty, cheatin' a@$ to the curb and get yourself a lawyer!! And after you've done all that, since you're in the military, go to your NCO or CO or whatever and tell them what is going on. The military doesn't play around with that stuff and they'll look out for you as much as possible...which you're really going to need since you're getting deployed!!! (which, by the way, thank you so much for everything you do! It's extremely appreciated!!) They may not be able to do anything to her if she's not military, but they'll have your back.

And as far as feeling uncomfortable being around the guy she sent the texts about, man, you should be thanking him! He didn't even do anything and she showed her true colors!
 
Need to call this guy.
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