a divorce is in the works

Dated 4 years and will be married for 27 this year. Definately takes give and take from both sides and a lot of "yes dear" :lol:
 
2001
Bush was elected president
My Father died
Dale Earnhardt died
I met Leslie
I got laid off from my job
was married in 2004 for the third time, second for her, 3 grand kids, good woman to put up with me!
 
35 and still yet to be married as I have been selfish and absorbed in my career and hobbies. Finally met someone who made me look at life differently and shares the same values, backgrounds and dreams. Could not imagine being happier.

Fawk I sound like a Hallmark card.
 
Married 16 years this june for me, I'm happy.

I always heard if you wan'na retire stay married!
 
well gang, she finally packed up some of her crap and went back home to Kannapolis this morning. I worked all day and all night yesterday, got home at 7:30 this morning, laid down on the couch to keep from waking her up when getting in the bed, and she woke me up at 8:30 (yes, an hour after I got home) and wanted to argue. I could take no more. *sigh*
 
lowestjumperXJ said:
well gang, she finally packed up some of her crap and went back home to Kannapolis this morning. I worked all day and all night yesterday, got home at 7:30 this morning, laid down on the couch to keep from waking her up when getting in the bed, and she woke me up at 8:30 (yes, an hour after I got home) and wanted to argue. I could take no more. *sigh*
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I feel for ya i go through alot of days like this with my wife...it is growing old...:beer:
 
I introduce mine as my 1st wife all the time, she doesn't seem to see the humor in it. It will be 10 years this December.

It does take a lot of work. Waaaaaaaaaaaaay too many couples spend 10x more time preparing for the wedding than they ever do preparing for the marriage.:shaking:
 
I went through the divorce thing. IT SUCKS. Now I am with someone whose age almost equals the number of years I was married.......

She's a keeper!! If I can keep up!

But seriously, divorce sucks. Keep your head up.
 
rottiedog said:
I went through the divorce thing. IT SUCKS. Now I am with someone whose age almost equals the number of years I was married.......
She's a keeper!! If I can keep up!
But seriously, divorce sucks. Keep your head up.
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I hope you were married for a least a decade, or more...:lol:
 
I hate to hear that. maybe things will get better.

I just sent her att. my disagreements with our property settlement.
 
I've been there, too. Trust me, it's no easier on the female's side than it is on the guy's. At least it wasn't for me. Divorce is very hard, but sometimes it really is the best thing all around!! It's one of the best things I ever did because now I'm with a great guy (rottiedog) and couldn't be happier!

Keep your head up and try to keep your eyes on the light at the end of the tunnel.
 
Yea I've got 4 mo until mine is finalized. Been dating a girl for about 3mo and am 10x happier than I ever was married. Sometimes you just fuck up. Its what you learn after you fuck ups that matters. I'm 1 vasectomy and a million dollars away from happiness haha. On a side note though it sucks and the first 6 mo's really are bad. Just keep yourself busy and find enough strange to help you sleep at night :lol:

I just sent her att. my disagreements with our property settlement.
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MAKE SURE THAT THING IS CRYSTAL CLEAR or has some backups to CYA and stick to it! I've been through hell w/mine because I gave an inch and she started taking a mile AFTER the agreement was made. Change the locks, move, do whatever but never let them in again haha. Mine picks up the kids and it seems like something goes missing every week. I have 3 forks left lol
 
I need to see a lawyer tomorrow first thing, but not exactly sure what to tell him/her...and don't they give free consultations to start with?

she keeps asking me today if she needs to call her mom and/or a lawyer....so since she hasn't worked in WELL over a month, I asked her how she was going to pay for a lawyer and she said I didn't need to worry about it. wtf chuck?
 
junkman said:
After being married 2 or 3 times for some of you i wonder if the problem is not with the women.
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While I could be the typical woman and say; "exactly" junkman, I am not a typical woman....

I am separated from my husband and waiting to get enough money to file for divorce. I am letting him have everything (debts included) except what I already have up here....

I look back and say; "I shoulda known better" and don't put all the blame on him.....

Most people go into a relationship thinking that the person they are presented with those first few dates is the "real" one. They don't look past the manners and courtesy that both people have and show on those first dates and see the person really underneath.

When they finally do, they believe that one person can change the other for the better. People don't accept each other for who they really are.

Both parties expect the other to "know" what their partner/spouse wants/needs. They don't talk....they shout, they rage, but don't really talk like they did when they first met.

"Familiarity breeds contempt" is a very true statement and one that should be kept in the front of every person's mind when in a relationship.

Also, I hate it when women know their guys love sports and complain that all their guys do on the weekends is sit around and watch the games...HELLO!!!! That is what they did when the couple were dating....but after marriage it isn't acceptable anymore???

And that goes both ways....the guy gives up games to go with the girl, then "expects" her to deal with it once they are together....

There are a lot of reasons relationships fail...and it aint always one side or the other, no matter how many times someone goes through it. :shaking:
 
I love watching PowerBlockTV on Spike every Saturday or Sunday morning...it's something my stepdad and I did EVERY week when I was growing up...yet she can't accept the fact that I'm addicted to anything with an engine and/or wheels and pisses and moans when I want to watch it. she sits at home every day all day long and watches tv or does whatever she does, will it really kill her to let me watch a couple hours of tv shows that I've always watched one morning a week?
 
lowestjumperXJ said:
I need to see a lawyer tomorrow first thing, but not exactly sure what to tell him/her...and don't they give free consultations to start with?
she keeps asking me today if she needs to call her mom and/or a lawyer....so since she hasn't worked in WELL over a month, I asked her how she was going to pay for a lawyer and she said I didn't need to worry about it. wtf chuck?
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Good luck....
 
lowestjumperXJ said:
I love watching PowerBlockTV on Spike every Saturday or Sunday morning...it's something my stepdad and I did EVERY week when I was growing up...yet she can't accept the fact that I'm addicted to anything with an engine and/or wheels and pisses and moans when I want to watch it. she sits at home every day all day long and watches tv or does whatever she does, will it really kill her to let me watch a couple hours of tv shows that I've always watched one morning a week?
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Yeah, my guys liked those shows too...I would probably get more into them if I understood some of the stuff. I like watching the 4x4 builds....

I always let them watch their shows....I agree with you, if I got to watch my shows, he gets to watch his....
 
Time for work!
 
I need to see a lawyer tomorrow first thing, but not exactly sure what to tell him/her...and don't they give free consultations to start with?
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Some do. Get some references and just call.

she keeps asking me today if she needs to call her mom and/or a lawyer....so since she hasn't worked in WELL over a month, I asked her how she was going to pay for a lawyer and she said I didn't need to worry about it. wtf chuck?
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Most likely shes bluffing you. Tell her to do what she has to do. THEN GO SEE A LAWYER YOURSELF. Its not like you are gonna suprise her with a lawyer. In NC you have to wait a year to file your petition and you will want a seperation agreement beforehand to CYA. GET THE SEPERATION AGREEMENT DONE ASAP
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lowestjumperXJ said:
I need to see a lawyer tomorrow first thing, but not exactly sure what to tell him/her...and don't they give free consultations to start with?
she keeps asking me today if she needs to call her mom and/or a lawyer....so since she hasn't worked in WELL over a month, I asked her how she was going to pay for a lawyer and she said I didn't need to worry about it. wtf chuck?
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If you're lawyering up, try and see if you can work it out together, and just use one lawyer to draw up the contract otherwise you'll go bankrupt and never get it finished.
I ended up just sucking it up, and paying WAY to much, because part of me would at least rather her get the money than two random lawyers.
Good luck, and may you not be as bitter and angry as I am when it's all done. (By all done, I mean I have to wait 11 more months in the year and a day period)
 
I thought in NC you had to wait a year for it to be final unless you both agreed to just say you'd be seperated a year and sign it all right then and there and have it all over with?
 
lowestjumperXJ said:
I thought in NC you had to wait a year for it to be final unless you both agreed to just say you'd be seperated a year and sign it all right then and there and have it all over with?
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You have to wait a year and a day no matter what.
If you try lying to the court, you open yourself up FOR EVERYTHING BAD if she changes her mind.

So sign a contract law binding separation agreement. Otherwise at any point she can move back in or whatever, and reset the clock on that 1year + 1 day.
 
lowestjumperXJ said:
that blows.
*le sigh*
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Yea, we did one of the 'flat fee' type lawyers.
750$ for him to deal with notarizing the separation agreement, etc etc etc
(and writing it up, all that jazz.)

He'll also file the divorce for us in a year.
I think that will be like 500 more.

I don't know how people can do the messy divorces though. This is as amicable as possible, and I just feel destroyed and like I have nothing left. Keep snapping at friends, etc etc. OH well.

If I ever get done being oncall, I'm having a beer. :lol:
 
I got mine done for less than $400, foung a on line seperation agreement we agreed on. Waited 1 year & I went to the lawyer & got-r-done.
 
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