Coming up on 6 months of driving this thing, turns out I was kinda wrong in the beginning. The major sketch wasn't from lack of sway bar, it was from stuff being loose. Still had some "light" feeling in the front end, so I mounted my shorty bumper that I had on my old explorer, and stuck the winch on the front. The weight of the winch helps out a ton with the front end, and it's just a patch until I get a sway bar, but it drives well enough that I feel safe with my kids in it. Oldest one sits up front with the shoulder belt, youngest still fits in a harness booster, so the 3 of us can ride just fine. Haven't had the time or money to set it up for all 4 of us to ride, so the wife gets left out, unless it's just us.
Speaking of the wife, I did take her on a short ride, she said it was too loud, so I finally bought a muffler. Yeah I know, I said my straight pipe was only temporary, but temporary turned into 5 months, and here we are. Went with a dynomax super turbo muffler, and I have no idea what it sounds like while driving, but it's quiet enough at idle and cranking that I can come back from work in the morning and not disturb anyone. I would like a 2.5 inch tailpipe since the muffler is 2.5 in/out, but factory 2 inch works for now.
The exhaust is so quiet now while driving, that I will have to fix the speedometer. I used my app and learned the exhaust sound to gear for my speed. Well now I can't hear it, and I'm going too fast, and the phone doesn't stay on the cluster during turns.
Other than that I will need to try changing some sensors maybe, getting a heavy fuel smell through the exhaust. No check engine light, so I'm gonna go off my OBD1 knowledge, and make some educated guesses. Might pull the plugs first to see if I maybe have an overactive injector.
Will update when I've done something more. No pictures as nothing has really changed.