Everybody wants to wear me out cause I have a trailer venting thread...

6BangBronk

6BangBronk

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I'm sure probably 50% or better on here know exactly where I am coming from here. I have a dude that kinda came into my life recently for his wife and my wife reunited on Myspace and were best friends since high school. We've all gone out a few times to eat and such. Dude had about a 40x80 garage full of crap for doing installation work and recently couldn't afford his rent due to slow work. He decides to move 30 miles further away where he's already 20 miles from me now. Being the situation, I agreed to help him out with my trailer and my back work to move him for my wife's sake. It ends out taking me 3 weekends of my time cause dude didn't have his shit together. We moved the last load on Saturday. Good deed done "whatever" done deal never again feeling...
Well, dude just calls me up to tell me he's worked out a deal with his last garage and wants me to help move all of it back...:fuck-you:

This ain't the first time I've been used for having a trailer. And I've been caught holding the bag plenty of times with promises of payment for my services. I guess this is the consequences of owning a trailer. But what's my options? What would you do?

Do I:

A. Grit my teeth and be the nice guy that I am again and just have the attitude that I could sure use money, gas and such and hope for the best.

B. Be a prick and demand hourly pay, gas, and such cause I've got a million things I've put off doing for myself to help this guy out.

C. Tell him to get a U-haul and find another friend.

I told him I'd give him a call back after I see what my wife is up to this evening. :popcorn:
 
Did he give you anything yet for your help.. if not then Tell him to get a U-haul and find another friend..

to me sounds like your wives are friends not you and him :)

I have been there a million times and have learned my lesson..
 
BRUISER said:
Did he give you anything yet for your help.. if not then Tell him to get a U-haul and find another friend..

to me sounds like your wives are friends not you and him :)

I have been there a million times and have learned my lesson..
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X2 You are being used. If you would ask him to block off all weekends in August because you have some stuff that you need his help on he would run for the hills. Hell if he had any friends he wouldnt be asking you anyway.
 
BRUISER said:
Did he give you anything yet for your help.. if not then Tell him to get a U-haul and find another friend..

to me sounds like your wives are friends not you and him :)

I have been there a million times and have learned my lesson..
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x3

Tell him to get that U-haul and move in short trips, plus you have already given him 3 weekends, and you have a lot of your own stuff to take care of. Or tell him your trailer tire blew and you don't have money for a new tire right now, but if he wants to pay for a new tire you will help him (and pocket the $$)
 
Option C

No fawking way I'd help him move all that crap back! Tell him you have plans and aren't available. People will take advantage of you if you let them.

About 6 yrs ago, my old roomate asked me to help his girlfriends sisters boyfriend move. Just because he was friends with the guy he thought I was. I had only met the dude once and thought he was a dick. I told my roomate that I didn't hardly know the guy and thought he(the dick) should get some of his own friends to help him move.
 
U haul...I was put in this situation last fall and ended up with other peoples stuff in my storage facility and was never compensated for it. Gave em the big F-U and didnt look back.
 
Demand money since time is money. Or you can load up your trailer and if he finds out he doesnt have the money after he agrees to pay just keep his stuff. But I would just tell em to find another friend.
 
You don't know how much better it made me feel just to post this thread. Venting alone is good medicine but knowing everybody else feels the same way is cure...

He gave me some scrap metal, a couple of heavy duty doors and a cook top stove and oven that I was going to try to sell to recoup for I don't need any of it. And he puts $20 in my truck every time but still ain't enough to cover my gas. He says he's going to help me out one weekend but I just don't see it happening. At least all his stuff is boxed and such and would probably be 2 trips now but still it's 2 more than I was willing.

Thanks fellas!!!
 
Oh yea, (Pushing the final steam out now) he has a lazy ass son (23 y.o.) that has found an excuse to get out of working every weekend. There were 2 other guys that helped the first 2 weekends but the last weekend I was informed they skipped town cause they got caught steeling and were out on bail. I hate a thief almost as much as a rapist. Close, but at least I'd let them live with broken fingers. But dude has brought both of the sticky finger bastards to my shop before. I've just moved here in the past year and haven't devoted time to slap good locks on the doors and now I've got to make it high priority.
 
You are skipping the obvious solution. If he does isntallation work and has a big garage then he has a truck. Loan him the trailer but tell him you are 3 weeks behind in stuff you need to do. Maybe he can get one of his other friends to help.

If he doesn't have a truck then he needs to buy one before he moves.
 
GubNi said:
You are skipping the obvious solution. If he does isntallation work and has a big garage then he has a truck. Loan him the trailer but tell him you are 3 weeks behind in stuff you need to do. Maybe he can get one of his other friends to help.
If he doesn't have a truck then he needs to buy one before he moves.
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He works out of a van. It's so much full of screws, bolts, hinges and crap that we didn't bother with it.
 
Papa_Jon said:
I say help him be there bigger man. krama is great if used right A friend in need is a friend indeed
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Well he already has accumulated three weekends worth of Karma... So when can he cash that in?

This guy sounds shady and if he is out of work and out of money but yet asking for a repeated favor than its time to wise up that he is using you. Sounds like a scavenger who leaches on to someone nice and helpful and uses up all their resources, once dry, move on to the next person.
 
The talley is unanimous and after thinking about it, the answer is obvious...:flipoff2: Don't know why I had to even think about it?:shaking: Just like anybody else, I got too much to do. He seems like a true dude but bullshit goes a long way. Besides, he should have figured his situation through to begin with. And I can't just throw money for wear and tear on my truck and trailer right now.
I've got to go to Lowes after work today to buy some no tresspassing signs and deadbolts to install tonight. I don't know this guy that good. I'd hate to have to report back with bad news. After he hears I'm not going to help him out, he may try something stupid? The signs are clear. Ya'll have given me the warning I needed.

Duh?:lol:

:beer::beer:
 
Many of you know me and know what all I have been through in the past years. I am not in the greatest of health and have continuous issues with back pain, hip pain, muscle issues, bursitis, etc. I have drawn favors for so many folks it's hard to keep up with. But, I try to return favors and help out when I can. I fully believe in Karma! When I think I am asking a lot, I offer to pay!

Given the scenario you have described,...

I think I would just tell the guy as honest as I can, that you have give him three weekends and feel you have gone over and above the call of their wives friendship.
I would lend anything I have to any one of my good friends because I know they would take as good of care of it as I would. This guy, I don't think I would make that offer. Not just the care issue, but the liability as well.

My vote is to let him know honestly, but firmly.
 
Chip - I'm sure I speak for most when I say you are a true friend and 'favors' for you don't count.

Back on track... I think your not looking at this in the right frame of mind... I'm sure you have a list of stuff to do. Be it short term projects or long term sorta stuff... Hell even a honey do type of list... I'd simply explain that due to spending 3 weeks on his stuff your kinda backed up now, but if he'd like to help you catch up you'd be willing to 'lend a hand'. (you can decided on that later). Make it clear your gonna need at least 2 people to help, mention his son is even welcome.

Me I'd jokingly say you were hoping to get him to do some work in return for you and laugh it off and see how he takes it.. Not knowing the dude its hard to say...
All else fails. Pull a hub or wheel of the trailer... problem solved...
 
The most simple thing to do would be tell him that on the way back from hauling all of his crap around the first time, one of the wheel bearings got hot, welded itself to the spindle, and took out the breaks at the same time. Then if he still wants the help, tell him he needs to pay $150 for the repairs and you will do it, plus fuel for this next "help" event. The $150 from spindle incident that didn't really happen can cover your fuel from the time before.

Most likely, you will not get a response and he will feel guilty. Problem solved.
 
John B. said:
The most simple thing to do would be tell him that on the way back from hauling all of his crap around the first time, one of the wheel bearings got hot, welded itself to the spindle, and took out the breaks at the same time. Then if he still wants the help, tell him he needs to pay $150 for the repairs and you will do it, plus fuel for this next "help" event. The $150 from spindle incident that didn't really happen can cover your fuel from the time before.

Most likely, you will not get a response and he will feel guilty. Problem solved.
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Nice and deceitful. Isnt this fella broke and unemployed?
 
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