Just want to elaborate on my reasoning for suggesting to stay with a matched set.
SEER changes based on unit matchups. You may have a 16 SEER outdoor unit but match with different air handlers and you now may have 14-15 SEER system. I have even seen the same model of indoor/outdoor units produce one SEER rating at 2 ton and a lower SEER rating at 3 ton.
By staying with a matched system you have data from the AHRI database. This is a database of systems that have been tested together to give you a system SEER rating. If you use mismatch system will it work? Yes. Will it cool fine? yes. But in my mind you would not ever really know where your SEER Rating will fall. Seems easier to me to match the system and you know where it falls before its installed.
Far as sizing one properly, you would need someone to run a load calculation on the house to be 100% accurate. There is rules of thumbs but ive seen many times where they don't apply. Everything from the direction the house faces, to the type of window and amount of overhang over window, to the amount of insulation you have all play a factor in the size of the system.