How far will you go helping friends

Wwildman

Wwildman

Never Give UP
Joined
Apr 16, 2005
Location
Garner, NC
Well while at work today my friend and scrap guy for the shop called me . He was stuck trying to get some scrap in a area we are trying to clean up.that was at 2:30 A friend of mine pulled him out so he would not have to wait until I got off of work .
Then just when I was finishing dinner I got a call from a friend of mine with a XJ .He asked if I had a spare 31 on a jeep wheel . I asked him why he said the center of his front wheel broke and the rim and tire came off . Well I said i did not have any more but i would check with a friend of mine down the road . He happen to have one so I went and picked it up . Then helped him to change it out so he could get home .

I always try to help my friends out because you never know when you are going to need them :beer::popcorn:
 
A little over a year ago, a friend, who was down on her luck, asked me to finance a car for her. She said she would pay me back a little at a time for 6 months. Not only did I loan her the money, I also found a suitable vehicle for her, and even paid for her registration. Three days later, the tranny went out. The person who sold me the vehicle gave me a partial refund to cover repairs. Another acquaintance(on here, no less) sold me a tranny for about what the refund was. Then, I installed the tranny, in December with snow on the ground, outside, for her. Funny thing is, she hasn't even attempted to pay any of the money back. My wife wanted to take her to court(she signed a promisory note) but we decided to forgive the loan, citing that money wasn't worth losing a friendship.
 
A close friend of mine broke a knuckle off at Harlan. It was our last day, and we didnt have the parts to fix it. My suggestion was to winch his truck up in the back of my 4-runner and use it as a tow truck to get back to camp. It resulted in a demolished rear section of body on the runner, no more tail lights due to the holes being so trashed, and two bent leaf springs. All is well though, I would tear my junk to shreads to help a friend. Tow Trucking out of Lower Damnation in a stock 4-runner, with nothing more than a spool and tons of trimming, was a freaking chore! lol
Love ya Old Dawg!
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MetalMangler said:
A close friend of mine broke a knuckle off at Harlan. It was our last day, and we didnt have the parts to fix it. My suggestion was to winch his truck up in the back of my 4-runner and use it as a tow truck to get back to camp. It resulted in a demolished rear section of body on the runner, no more tail lights due to the holes being so trashed, and two bent leaf springs. All is well though, I would tear my junk to shreads to help a friend. Tow Trucking out of Lower Damnation in a stock 4-runner, with nothing more than a spool and tons of trimming, was a freaking chore! lol
Love ya Old Dawg!
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Is that Robert Hoyle's(Dawgtoy) rig?
 
ive built 3 other rigs for friends while mine is still junk! haha
 
i do have a friend that has let me use his wheels tires and front axle for the past 3 years though......Thats a true friend!
 
I've spent more of my life helping people than taking care of myself.
Hence-
A) I have a very small savings
B) My junk still isn't "finished"
C) My garage is full of other people's stuff
D) I haven't received payment on countless stuff I've sold, or waited months for the rest.

What comes around goes around and I've been helped more than those people are willing to admit.
 
Loaned out more parts than I can remember, loaned out more money than I can count, and I was the guy who got the 3 am call for far too long, but its hard for me to think of doing it any other way.

I left my old XJ at a friends house for roughly 3 months, with him having the keys, during which time I was rarely around, and he was wheeling the hell out of it, put a serious hurting on it, including getting it stuck in a hole that came over the hood while I was in Tennesee... Still friends to this day. I agree with Ray in that sometimes its worth letting things go to save a friendship, however in the case of a loan enough to buy a car... I know for a fact I couldn't actually handle that.
Too broke and saw my mother do the exact same thing a few years ago for a long time friend and it is just no getting to the point of taking the woman to court, loan was $10,000 and not a dime has been paid back in the last 5 years.
 
I have 2 friends, they both know they can come to me for anything.
 
I helped a guy yesterday I didn't even know and I busted the gears on my Warn 8274. I guess I'll eat a few hundred bucks in gears just cause I can't leave a fellow wheeler stuck although it does agrivate the hell out of me someone would wheel w/o a winch. Before I get bashed I'll just tell you if you can't afford a winch you shouldn't be wheeling.

In three years my winch has probably been pulled 40-50 and I'd say I've used it less than 15 times on myself.
 
I have gave/loaned more parts out while in the mnts than I care to mention and back when I drove mine back and forth I carried a big tool box in the back loaded w stuff.In my homelife it has been my experience w most people when you start out helpin they seem to expect it everytime.

My BIL wanted and old truck I had one time and he had cancer.He wanted to pay me a little at a time until he had it paid for,if he died before it was paid I was to get it back.I went along w it. Long story short he made 2-3 payments,died,and my other BIL(his brother) took the truck.Come to find out he had some money in the bank he was savin to buy a new rifle and it would have paid what he owed me,I never saw a dime. So I was out the truck and the balance of the money.

I got called out one Sat night to pull a guy out I knew and when I got there he was drunk and stuck in some guys field.He had tore down a nice white picket fence and was givin me lip about takin soo long.I left him there.

With that said their is a select group that I'd help regardless of where they were at or what had happened. Outside of my wife and my son I dont have many good friends and thats alright w me.

As far as cash goes I never ask and I never offer.Some of you probably think thats kind of a hard way to be,but ask any of these guys who deal w the public everyday,it'll make hard toward people.
 
lockedup5 said:
Before I get bashed I'll just tell you if you can't afford a winch you shouldn't be wheeling.
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Thats a stupid statement. I have been pulled out more times than I can think with just a strap and a towpoint. Works just fine for us poor folk. Never been in such a situation where Ive had to have a winch to get me or anyone else out of a bad spot, if one vehicle pulling isn't enough, hook 2 up. Good old redneck ingenuity.
 
I like to think I take better care of my friends than I do myself...that said, I never loan out more than $100 (which is typically enough to cover a utilities bill or some groceries)...and I don't do that very often. My line of thinking is, most the time when yuo loan the money, you're just enabling. Another reason I don't loan money is because I typically never saw it back, so unless I'm ok with never seeing it again...I don't loan it out. I've lost a few too many friends and family over large sums of money to get tangled up in that mess.
 
XJfreakHO said:
Thats a stupid statement. I have been pulled out more times than I can think with just a strap and a towpoint. Works just fine for us poor folk. Never been in such a situation where Ive had to have a winch to get me or anyone else out of a bad spot, if one vehicle pulling isn't enough, hook 2 up. Good old redneck ingenuity.
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Therefore you put a hinderance on your friends and fellow wheelers and their equipment and you don't feel bad about it. What kinda friend does that make you? As I said I'm probably going to be a few hundred into my winch I broke pulling someone else out. Maybe I just shouldn't pull my winch for someone like that again and I'll keep my money in my pocket. Better yet why don't I just buy you a winch too since you can't afford one.
 
I do what I can for who I can, most of the time. As far as money, I don't loan more than I could give. It turns out that way sometimes.
I have loaned parts, welded, and stayed behind when it was what needed to be done.
Have not lost a minutes sleep over helping someone so I will continue.
 
lockedup5 said:
Therefore you put a hinderance on your friends and fellow wheelers and their equipment and you don't feel bad about it. What kinda friend does that make you? As I said I'm probably going to be a few hundred into my winch I broke pulling someone else out. Maybe I just shouldn't pull my winch for someone like that again and I'll keep my money in my pocket. Better yet why don't I just buy you a winch too since you can't afford one.
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How does pulling someone out with a strap "hurt equipment" you gotta be kidding me? Maybe a little extra wear, but not enough to flinch at.

Where did I say I didn't have a winch? I have a warn XD9000i, Ive used it once, for someone else, never for myself. Your right, bitching about it solves problems, now Im sorry you tore up your winch, but welcome to the sport, if you can't afford to repair your winch, maybe you shouldn't have one? And hell, maybe you shouldn't wheel if you want to bitch about helping people, to be honest, I sure wouldn't want you or anyone whos going to bitch about it later to help me on the trail, but you better believe I would help you, and wouldn't ask for a thing.
 
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