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I think some women like surprises, and some don't. Yours may not judging by the way she reacted about the dinner plans. My wife loves to cook, so last year I bought her a nice set of pots and pans. They were a big hit. She loves them. I don't think I would buy cleaning stuff though unless she specifically asks for something because nobody really likes to clean. This year she asked for an I-pod touch, so that is what is under the tree. She likes being surprised though, so I have to pretend that I couldn't find it and she isn't getting it. I bought some lingerie and put it in a box under the tree first and she could tell the box was too big and too light to be an i-pod and is surprised and curious since she has no idea what it is. That makes her happy.
 
well see that's what I don't understand....she asked for a Roomba, then suddenly now she doesn't want it and says not to get her anything for the house? she's the one that wanted to go and buy this damn house. I pretty much had her figured out until I joined the Army. after that, it all went out the window. she says I'M the one that has changed, which may be true, but come on now.
 
Tell Jody to buy her the Roomba!!JK I learned along time ago that I cannot get the gift thing right. Now I had over a couple of dead inventors and watch the kids for the afternoon.
 
do like I did, don't buy her anything. If she want something she can get it herself.
i learned a long time ago that it will be wrong if I buy it so I don't anymore. the next step is then to train her to think that you not buying her something is the best idea ever. this takes time.
has worked for 11 years. guess what she get this years........ nothing. its great!

the key is not to complain when she does buys something, just complement it.
 
cky4620 said:
the only thing gift cards say it i dont wanna do your shopping you do it for me im to lazy
so dont get gift cards
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not necessarily, they could also say I'm tired of you returning the crap I picked out for you, here's a gift card, pick out your own crap
 
This thread needs to be renamed "trying to figure out women"! Good luck. This is going to be a long never ending thread. If you think you have her figured out do not, I repeat do not tell her, keep it quietly to yourself. If you do slip and say I have you figured out she WILL change the game on you and you'll be back to square one.
As far as xmas gifts we purchased a joint gift this year, a LCD Tv for the bed room on black friday.
 
cky4620 said:
the only thing gift cards say it i dont wanna do your shopping you do it for me im to lazy
so dont get gift cards
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Luckly I let my wife know exactly what she was getting when we got married...I haven't changed and I doubt I will. I hate shopping and usually I give her an envelope full of cash along with a few small items...I've never seen her disappointed.
 
I tell my wife to go get her Christmas, and she does...never been disappointed.

I try to pick out one or two small things for the thought, etc.
But basically if she is looking for a reason to bitch, she will not be happy and if she is looking to be happy she will. You have no control in the situation, IMHO.

Oh yea if you go Vicki's secret route, earn brownie points, buy it too small if you are unsure.
 
Problems with this thread:
1. you missed the woot roomba sale
2. You'll just end up taking it apart and playing with it. Ask for one for YOURSELF and let her use it.

J
 
BIGWOODY said:
I hate shopping and usually I give her an envelope full of cash along with a few small items...I've never seen her disappointed.
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^^^ This^^^

I did get her one thing that I know she truly wanted, but aside from that, I said here's cash get something for yourself instead of for the kids. She was thrilled!
 
Originally Posted by BIGWOODY
I give her an envelope full of cash along with a few small items...I've never seen her disappointed.

^^^^^

I have been doing this for 25 of our 28 years of marriage. Took me 3 years to learn this trick. Forget figuring out women, you'll die trying.:shaking:
 
madssjeep said:
do like I did, don't buy her anything. If she want something she can get it herself.
i learned a long time ago that it will be wrong if I buy it so I don't anymore. the next step is then to train her to think that you not buying her something is the best idea ever. this takes time.
has worked for 11 years. guess what she get this years........ nothing. its great!
the key is not to complain when she does buys something, just complement it.
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I do the exact same thing. It is great once she realized it was a great idea. That and she don't work anyways so ehh.
 
SkyHiK5 said:
Oh yea if you go Vicki's secret route, earn brownie points, buy it too small if you are unsure.
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Gotta be careful w/ this one, it can backfire... if it's a size she USEd to be, then she canget pissy b/c she "don't fit no mo"...

This year we're buying ourselves a nice big-ass TV, our first flat-panel. So we're agreed, that's it, no real present - we're both hapy w/ it.
 
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