Married...without children. Anyone else?

@BIGWOODY skeletor the funnel? If thats another name for unmentionables ( i use this term bc its in chitchat, and there are ladies present) that is the funniest thing i have ever heard!
 
Brando5185 said:
26, married 6 years and have 3 kids. We plan on having 4-5 more and going on gov assistance and letting yall pay for us.
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The scary part is with the current administration you would probably wouldn't have much of a lifestyle change and still have a nicer rig than most of us working. Hell, I might just do the same. :usa:
 
redneckjeep87 said:
@BIGWOODY skeletor the funnel? If thats another name for unmentionables ( i use this term bc its in chitchat, and there are ladies present) that is the funniest thing i have ever heard!
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I gotcha....but no really..it's a beer bong that is skeletor's head.


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IMHO. Having kids is a personal and private decision to most of us. Lifestyle/housing/monetary changes and such.
Some folks just pop em out due to stupidity. I understand and respect those who choose not procreate. On a lighter note....
Jody and Lisa would be GREAT parents, good people = good young uns.
And if a little blonde headed girl in Raleigh cusses like a sailor in pre K, mea culpa....................
;)
 
cgm147 said:
30 yrs old, me and my wife have been together almost 6 yrs and we both thought it was a good idea to wait to see if we wanted kids. We love our freedom and we enjoying beer lol this past thanksgiving we were granted custody via DSS of my wife's little sisters 6yr little girl. Life is a struggle presently and isn't looking to let up anytime soon. Point blank her sis is a drug addict piece of shit. Say a prayer for us lol
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@cgm147 I've read all these posts. Yours stands out to me. Why? Because I am going through the same thing brother. Thanks to my sister's mental illness, I now have a new to us 6 month old girl, and an 11 year old boy via DSS.

I'm married with 2 daughters. We tried forever to have our first kid, then the second kid was a surprise! I could go on and on about my 3 lovely ladies, but your post made me think....

If you could somehow calculate the way our lives changed with the birth of our girls, then calculate how much our life has changed with the addition of my sister's kids, you'd find out quickly that the change was 100 times greater when DSS came a calling.

In other words...trust me, I know what you are going through x 2.

In a sense, when you bring your own kids into the world..your life SLOWLY acclimates to the new environment that is parenthood.
But when you get 2 kids via DSS...with no warning at all.....That's like pouring boiling water on a frozen windshield.
We are all just trying not to crack at my house.
 
I'm colorblind so I'm sure we're not seeing the same thing but there have been some epic parties at this house:beer:
 
21... been with the same young lady for 4 years and plan on proposing this year sometime, she wants 3 I want 2, but a happy wife is a happy life from what I've heard :D Don't plan on getting married till after I graduate Pharmacy school in 2019(so no kids till then) and she's at UNCG studying to be a middle school teacher( God help her and me ), so I think we'll be alright.
 
cgm147 said:
30 yrs old, me and my wife have been together almost 6 yrs and we both thought it was a good idea to wait to see if we wanted kids. We love our freedom and we enjoy beer lol this past thanksgiving we were granted custody via DSS of my wife's little sisters 6yr little girl. Life is a struggle presently and isn't looking to let up anytime soon. Point blank her sis is a drug addict piece of shit. Say a prayer for us lol
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You & Ashley are absolutely amazing! I know this is probably a huge adjustment for everyone but she's lucky to have you both! Praying for everyone & hoping for the best!
 
Oh and as for me...I'll be 30 on Sunday & Joe's 38ish (?). Together 12 yrs, married for 6 & no plans for kids. I'll stick with fur babies - I can lock them up & not have to worry about a home visit!
 
<<<< Is cleansed of his sins.
LOL!
 
so cgm147 I know what your going thru. It takes good people to do what you are doing. my hat is off to you.
I will never understand the drug addicted trash that picks drugs over their own children.
after my stepdaughters 3rd child was born with all kinds of shit in his system. I finally was able to get DSS to get off their ass and remove the children from the drug house. I took the lil guy home from the hospital and moved the other 2 to my house. he never went to live with them. but 2yrs later.. a huge custody battle between me and my wife at the time and the other grand parents. we lost over the action from my now ex wife. my life has never been the same
 
No kids = extra time and money for 4wheeling. I have a good friend with kids and he struggles with taking them with him or being apart for a 3 day weekend. So glad I don't have to worry about that.
 
I couldn't imagine living my life without the joys my kids have brought me. That said they come with their challenges as well.
Though not totally planned this way I think Linda and I lucked into the best possible scenario for us. Had my first at 22 and second and final at 24. As a result I was young enough to do all the fun stuff with them, and now that my son is 14 and wrestling/playing football etc I am still active enough to roll with him on the mats, pitch a ball, even strapped on a helmet and shoulder pads to work through blocking drills with him this past fall. etc.

Also I will be an empty nester at 42. Still plenty young enough for lots of fun, or even to trade my 42 year old wife in for a pair of 21 year olds :D

Both the wife and I grew up without strong consistent parents in our lives, we consider it our calling from whatever higher power you believe in to break the cycle and bring kids up the way we wanted. I'd say we are on path.

I dont judge others who have kids as better or worse nor those who make the choice not to have kids either. Its a totally personal choice and decision and none of my business. My sole "rule" when it comes to kids is this, "If you make them you raise them." I understand "things happen" between adults, but people who are capable and refuse to be a part of their children's life I have no use for. I think there is a special place in hell for those folks. Not sorry if I offend anyone with that.

::beer::
 
Dylan W. said:
@cgm147 I've read all these posts. Yours stands out to me. Why? Because I am going through the same thing brother. Thanks to my sister's mental illness, I now have a new to us 6 month old girl, and an 11 year old boy via DSS.

I'm married with 2 daughters. We tried forever to have our first kid, then the second kid was a surprise! I could go on and on about my 3 lovely ladies, but your post made me think....

If you could somehow calculate the way our lives changed with the birth of our girls, then calculate how much our life has changed with the addition of my sister's kids, you'd find out quickly that the change was 100 times greater when DSS came a calling.

In other words...trust me, I know what you are going through x 2.

In a sense, when you bring your own kids into the world..your life SLOWLY acclimates to the new environment that is parenthood.
But when you get 2 kids via DSS...with no warning at all.....That's like pouring boiling water on a frozen windshield.
We are all just trying not to crack at my house.
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having known Dylan for a LONG time and his sister / extended family this is just crushing. however hes the type guy that can take on the challenge, and keep smiling- everybody knows this. growing up (high school), my neighbors took in a 1 year old due to this same type deal and I took care of her most of the time (they were the grandparents). it was a good learning opportunity and it cemented the idea that I didn't want any of my own- the world is just too messed up. Im too much of a bull in the china shop to have kids of my own. the current status quo wont let me parent the way that I was raised, so I would have no idea what I was doing. the wife is uber liberal in child rearing, so we chose to avoid the whole thing- 15 years running. I do regret it sometimes, but hey, you make choices. if push comes to shove, then we'll pony up the cash and adopt- doubtful. otherwise, I will volunteer my time at hospitals/shelters etc, to fill that void of family/meaning.

those that know me beyond the board know that I take great pleasure being part of my friends' kids lives, and would do anything for them. I love kids, but I would be in the pokey almost immediately because I would beat the $hit out of my kids at the grocery store if needed.

for us its not a money/time/responsibility thing. its more about 'the times'
signed, a non-breeder
 
Chuckman,
If you enjoy interacting with kids there are a lot of kids that could benefit from your time.
Whether its Boys&Girls Club, Take-one-make-One, Mantor, or any other type organization. There is always a need there.
 
my very good friend that I grew up with rolled out to my farm to take his city kid 'to the country' for the weekend. he was 7 and in the back of a Tahoe watching some crap on the headrest tv. I told him to watch it until he was finished, because that was the end of it until he went home. the point of the country was to be in the country and to do 'man things' (campfires, shoot .22, drive tractors/jeeps etc- you know COOL things). dude got mad at me and said that I was mean to deprive him of his tv (read: babysitter). I told him that he could come in to pee before he left cause he sure wasn't staying and surely needed to sit down to do so (meaning his vag needed wiping). the end.

NOW you see my point about 'the times'.

you tell me I would have to deal with all levels of authority that think that way. NO WAY JOSE
 
cardudenc said:
so cgm147 I know what your going thru. It takes good people to do what you are doing. my hat is off to you.
I will never understand the drug addicted trash that picks drugs over their own children.
after my stepdaughters 3rd child was born with all kinds of shit in his system. I finally was able to get DSS to get off their ass and remove the children from the drug house. I took the lil guy home from the hospital and moved the other 2 to my house. he never went to live with them. but 2yrs later.. a huge custody battle between me and my wife at the time and the other grand parents. we lost over the action from my now ex wife. my life has never been the same
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Thanks..well it just came to a head this weekend.. DSS told us we had x amount of time and she would go to the state. So my wife went to the law office and did some talking, then went and talked to her sister and she signed her rights away to us. So we will now have full custody of her in the next week or so. Shit just got real but I think we will be ok.
 
cgm147 said:
Thanks..well it just came to a head this weekend.. DSS told us we had x amount of time and she would go to the state. So my wife went to the law office and did some talking, then went and talked to her sister and she signed her rights away to us. So we will now have full custody of her in the next week or so. Shit just got real but I think we will be ok.
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Good luck. You are doing a great deed. I'm sure it will be fine. Keep us updated
 
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