Why did 2013 suck?

My Dad died a few days before Thanksgiving.
 
Well...I better not.

Let's just say it sucked and made lawyers money.
 
Mine was better than most...but still, started out with shingles, then a corneal abrasion, then the flu....so I didn't make much money the first half of the year (self employed) then wife lost her job June 30. Hoping and praying for a better 2014.

McCracken and Jeff B...sorry about your dads...I lost mine in 2006 at 79. Still miss him.
 
Yeah it was rough around Thanksgiving and Christmas. Christmas in general was jacked for our family this year.

Here's another. My mom fell just before New Year's. Broke her ankle in 3 places. So now dad's gone and I'm the man of two houses. While holding down my job (which is now two jobs) and my house I now have to coordinate how to take care of my mom while my pregnant worthless sister sits back and pops out another crotch fruit and does nothing to help.
 
My Grandad, more of a dad than my real dad passed away 15min short of my arrival at the hospital from my 6 hour drive from marion nc to Richmond va.
I probably beat my self up about the situation more than I should.
 
Don't do it. I was there with my dad in the hospital. The last words I said to him were, "I'll see you in a minute". Not "I love you" or anything like that. I wasn't prepared and it can eat at you. I walked 6 feet away and the alarms went off and that was the end. I'm sorry for your loss (and yours too Jeff). Honestly, I put it in the back of my mind and try not to dredge it up. I do my best to move forward but it is hard to sometimes.

I drank two Mtn. Dews so I'm a little chatty tonight. Pardon my copious postings.
 
Another.

I'm adopted. Recently, I thought I would take the step to find my birth parents. If anything to say "thanks". Went through the whole process and found out that my birth mother died last year of breast cancer and my birth dad is nowhere to be found. I have a 1/2 brother somewhere and I'm still working on getting up with him.
 
My dad is an alcoholic, he lost his job after his 3rd or 4th trip to rehab. They got him in a loophole, but a totally legal one. I knew they were going to get rid of him and they finally did. I figured their insurance company was tired of paying for his sorry ass. Anyway, he sits at home and stays drunk, I don't like him, my dog hates him, and I'm just waiting for the inevitable. He's already had 85% kidney failure and emergency dialysis done twice on an ER trip after a mix of morphine pills and Aristocrat. He's 62 years old and you'd think he would have learned by now.... He quit twice, once for a year and the second time for 3 years. He was almost tolerable then, but I haven't talked to him in probably 2 months.

My former girlfriend also left to move back north last June and decided Christmas day would be a good time to tell me she's going back to her ex who also lives in NC. Good riddance, I say.

Anyway, enough of my life story. I'm actively trying to build a house and get the hell out of here. Hopefully 2014 will be better. Sorry about yall that actually had fathers worth missing. God forbid something happens to my mom before my dad dies.
 
Lost my job in November... now fighting for unemployment, looking for a new job... The rest of the crap is too personal to share in a place where a lot of my friends can read. But Oh well.

Its a new year, hopefully things get better.
 
Well...found out at my last job that my boss was trying to get me fired and dragging my name through the mud last 6 months I worked there. Primarily out of jealousy and insecurity. It wasn't until I couldn't take the cold shoulder from upper management anymore that I finally went to HR to see what was up and discuss how my boss was treating me. I was told to stop my whining because I was under investigation, after 6 months of being dogged, I was too late. Luckily I keep squeaky clean records...on the shared drive and personal drive. Finally realized the records on my shared drive were being tampered with...when I brought that up, I was told 'she's your boss, she can do with your files as she pleases'. Still really bitter about it, luckily I dropped them and moved on to something better.

The IRS upped my old man's monthly payback from $2700/mo to $3900/mo...so I've been supplementing that because he couldn't afford the uptick. So close to the end, I wasn't going to let him go back in to default mode again. Who knew $13k worth of business tax issues from 95-98 could turn in to $150k in repayment.

Lost an uncle while he was laid off, and didn't have any life insurance

The old lady was laid off and unemployed for about 6 months, but she found a better job down in Charlotte.

Beyond that...not too shabby.
 
Well then. I feel much better about my 2013 after reading everyone else's struggles. Sorry for everyone's loss and hard times.

My year had more good than bad. I got my life together and got closer to God. I got engaged, got a job that pays less but makes me much happier. Got a Wrangler from a guy on here and I'm still friends with him. Went to Harlan for the first time. Joined CTB... Oh yeah, this is a why did it suck thread.

Well, I can relate to @Croatan_Kid. My mom has always been a little crazy, but in the last 3 years she's really went off the deep end. She eats a ton of prescription pills, sleeps for days, doesn't make sense most of the time, can't remember conversations that just happened. Calls me up to cuss me out for something 10 years ago. Hates my fiancé, hates that I moved out from her rental property to start my own life completely on my own. She gives me the guilt trip over absolutely everything and tells me she is so depressed she just wants to die, saying she thinks about sticking a gun in her mouth daily. It used to break me down and really bother me, but then I realized that she lives the way she does at her own will, does nothing to change it and will not get help. I can do nothing but pray for her at this point, whatever she decides is her choice and not my fault. I will not let it get to me. I just dread the day I get the call, or even worse be the one to find her...

But life goes on and I'm pretty happy. Praying for those here that lost loved ones and have ongoing struggles. Hope 2014 is even better for all of us!
 
I went through nearly the same thing for years with my Mother. That ended in 2000.
 
Jeff B said:
I went through nearly the same thing for years with my Mother. That ended in 2000.
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It's a vicious cycle. My grandmother did it to her. My uncles (her brothers) never had much to do with my mom or grandmother, since I've gotten older and seen things for what they are I understand now. Even talked to my uncles about if. Jeff feel free to PM me with any advice, it's not always easy.
 
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wow, I hate all the bad juju going on here, I sincerely hope it gets better for all. Guess I had a fairly good year, I'm happy to have a healthy and loving family all around. About all I can come up with is I missed my first ECORS race (Auburn AL, fun track, now closed), then a second in Harlan, didn't race the Line Mt in PA, never got around to fixing my DD XJ so it sat idle most of the year, barely even looked at my CJ for another year, did not trail ride at all, didn't hit URE at all. And work kind of sucked hard, lots of dumb politics and stupid shit going on, 2014 doesn't look good for any improvement there.
 
Doesn't compare to the others real problems or losses but it hit me pretty hard...

I sold my first car/love... my '92 Wrangler I'd had for over a decade (cried like a bitch as it left on a trailer)
 
Wow I seriously hope 2014 goes better for everyone. Mine started out shitty being unemployed for a year but I'm now gainfully employed and doing well again for the first time since I was in the Marines.
 
I'm glad other people understand.... there's no way I could sell any of my vehicles. There's an attachment, a bond if you will, that forms and it's not something that can be easily broken.
 
My wife blew the engine in her daily driver. We got a used motor and later found out the head gasket was busted. It was literally the 31st or 32nd day we had it. Dude would not honor the 30-day warranty. I slapped a new head gasket on and took the good head off the old engine. A few weeks later heard the little ticking in bottom end of the engine. shit. so I find yet another engine to try. Swap it in and fire it up. Sounds good to me. However, at this point I want it out of my life. I pull the insurance and put it on the market. A couple months go by and get a bite. I fire it up and let it idle for a bit.... *tick* *tick* *tick* *tick* SONOFABITCH!!!! So yeah after 3 engines I'm ready to drive it off a cliff. I still have it and it's like a $2500 paper weight.
 
Croatan_Kid said:
My dad is an alcoholic, he lost his job after his 3rd or 4th trip to rehab. They got him in a loophole, but a totally legal one. I knew they were going to get rid of him and they finally did. I figured their insurance company was tired of paying for his sorry ass. Anyway, he sits at home and stays drunk, I don't like him, my dog hates him, and I'm just waiting for the inevitable. He's already had 85% kidney failure and emergency dialysis done twice on an ER trip after a mix of morphine pills and Aristocrat. He's 62 years old and you'd think he would have learned by now.... He quit twice, once for a year and the second time for 3 years. He was almost tolerable then, but I haven't talked to him in probably 2 months.
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My sperm donor father was an alcy too,so much so that it finally killed him @ 58.They told that liquor bottles were found in his hosp room after he died.Mom divorced him when I was 4,she had to wait until he was n jail to serve papers on him.I saw him about three times between age 4 and 39 when he died.As much as you hate him you will feel a loss when hes gone.


@McCracken My step dad adopted me when I was 13.With the exception of one cousin I've had little contact with anybody on my bio fathers side of the family.Thru my cousin I was able to get ahold of my sister.I called her to find out the details of his death (bio father).Keep in mind I had never met/talked to her before but within the first 2 mins of the conversation she was tryin to get money off me to help pay for the funeral and to get him home from MI (where he died).Before I got off the phone w her my brother,who Ive never met either,came in and I could hear him in the background sayin he would "beat my @ss" if I came to the funeral,I had no intentions of goin anyway.Since then I have found out they are pretty much trailer trash.So I said all that to say this,dont go into it hopin for much cause your very likely t find out you want no part of what you find.Said brothers mugshot,real winner.Drug dealer just like his daddy.
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It was an up and down year for me, but thankfully more ups than downs. My uncle died early in the year. We had a miscarriage and that was rough, but tried again and were blessed with a healthy son 6 weeks ago. We took on some medical debt. I reluctantly turned down a $20K retention bonus to take a new job. I am happier overall in my new (and more stable) job, but do wish I had that $20K and sometimes miss some of the excitment my old job provided. I started having problems with a neighbor who is now threatening my family with physical harm. Because of this (and other issues) we have decided to move soon. In an effort to get my ducks in a row so we can move, I traded my truggy for a family car and will be selling my truck/trailer soon. This is the part where that $20K would have come in handy. On the upside, my wife and kids are all healthy and we both still have jobs.

I hate it for you guys that had a rough year and/or lost loved ones. Surely 2014 will be better!
 
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