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C.Berry

C.Berry

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So a guy told me your allowed one mistake in life recently... I've made a shit ton of em in 33 years! But this isn't one of em! Looking for a engagement ring and Im a real old school traditional back woods kinda guy and very out of the what's cool in fashion/accessories, I figured some of y'all were more metro and could help and the ladies in here! so my question is really what size damn diamonds a man to get his future wife???? Lol I've read some woman forums that say to big is pain in the ass scared to wear it bc of damage but to little means your a cheap ass... Lol I know her preferences for a ring, cut, shiny,etc but I'm a big guy all these lil diamonds look small to be except for the 10k rings lol how'd y'all married guys do it? I refuse to take her with me tho I'm trying to work out a surprise for me the give it to her near our anniversary in Jan... NC4X4 I've taken advice from y'all since 05 on a buddies account till I made my owne this may be toughest question I've asked to date!! Enlighten me Haha :popcorn:
 
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Ive not bought a diamond ring yet. but all the ones my girlfriend show me look the same except some are 1,000 and some are 10,000. besides that im not really any help. I watched a documentary on diamond rings and they bought diamonds for 8-10 big chain stores, discount diamond places and so on and tested them all and they were all virtually the same except price tag.
 
Two years salary is the rule on size.






























Haha man I couldn't afford to buy my wife a nice damn gumball machine ring when when we got engaged. I dont even know what size it was (small) but I done it all by myself and she loved it and still does(15th anniversary is coming up). I think it depends on what she likes and what you think makes her happy. My wife is a minimalist so she didn't want a flashy or large ring. Gots to go with your heart man.
 
Yeah Im lost on this type of stuff, I don't wear any type of jewelry not even a wrist watch... lol I've heard tho that women prefer ya spending less on the ring and saving rest for living!?? Find that hard to believe but who am I to say? Maybe @trailhugger or @jeepin' jen, @redneck grrrl can chime in and help two brothers out lol
 
If mine expected two years salary sized ring well let's just say Id be looking for ring and pinions instead of bling...
 
I went to Diamonds Direct when I bought my wife's engagement ring. Told them I knew absolutely nothing about it and they sat down for 2hrs and walked me through everything. Even gave me a beer to drink. Luckily I had two diamonds(one from each side of the family) so it brought the price down a good bit. At the time, it was about 3 months salary. She now wants to add another wedding band on the other side of the ring...
 
Buy what you can afford as long as it comes from the heart the price tag does not matter. You can always "upgrade" later (the ring, not the wife)

Congratulations and I hope she says yes.
 
@Infamous1 congrats on 15 years btw! My woman's a simple gal so your advice helps just reassure that it'll work (hopefully) whether it ends up being a gumball Machine ring or me broke... :beer:
 
redneck grrrl said:
Buy what you can afford as long as it comes from the heart the price tag does not matter. You can always "upgrade" later (the ring, not the wife)

Congratulations and I hope she says yes.
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Thanks, I hope she does too... haha wouldn't that be something!
 
redneck grrrl said:
Buy what you can afford as long as it comes from the heart the price tag does not matter. You can always "upgrade" later
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THIS

If she's worth keeping, she won't care how big the rock is. My wife and I "upgraded" for our 1 year, and again for 10 yr. This whole "must be X numbers of months worth" was created by the diamond industry to sucker young fools into dumping money into something they can't afford for nothing more than bragging rights.

If she's the kinda gal that rely's more on what others think than whats importane, go buy a hugh-jazz cubic zirconia knockoff (and a small REAL diamond) so she can instagram the world, but have the true one for when it counts.

BTW...my wifes father was a jeweler and had his own shop for YEARS in Landis....talk about pressure!
 
NC_IslandRunner said:
If shes worth keeping it won't matter, as long as it doesn't look like you bought the cheapest junk you can find. Get what is within reason for your budget, if it isn't good enough for her then you dodged a bullet, she's not the one. If she is, you can always upgrade later for a anniversary gift!
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Upgrading is already in process after ya buy first ring I thought!!? Lol She didn't even want a real diamond she wants pink morganite!!?? I was the one like I'm not buying you some cheap ring That looks like a kiddy ring, she simply said your just an grandpa and your not wearing it lol
 
CasterTroy said:
THIS

If she's worth keeping, she won't care how big the rock is. My wife and I "upgraded" for our 1 year, and again for 10 yr. This whole "must be X numbers of months worth" was created by the diamond industry to sucker young fools into dumping money into something they can't afford for nothing more than bragging rights.

If she's the kinda gal that rely's more on what others think than whats importane, go buy a hugh-jazz cubic zirconia knockoff (and a small REAL diamond) so she can instagram the world, but have the true one for when it counts.

BTW...my wifes father was a jeweler and had his own shop for YEARS in Landis....talk about pressure!
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Probably the best advice so far. I just went through this same thing and just need to get "the talk" out of the way with her father to seal the deal even though I know the answer. Having family rocks help but the cost to reset still costs a good bit. Mine isnt a bling freak and I have another stone set aside for an upgrade down the road. I know two friends that are still paying on their rings even though the lady is no longer in the picture. Talk about negative equity.
 
CasterTroy said:
THIS

If she's worth keeping, she won't care how big the rock is. My wife and I "upgraded" for our 1 year, and again for 10 yr. This whole "must be X numbers of months worth" was created by the diamond industry to sucker young fools into dumping money into something they can't afford for nothing more than bragging rights.

If she's the kinda gal that rely's more on what others think than whats importane, go buy a hugh-jazz cubic zirconia knockoff (and a small REAL diamond) so she can instagram the world, but have the true one for when it counts.

BTW...my wifes father was a jeweler and had his own shop for YEARS in Landis....talk about pressure!
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Haha that's pressure there!
 
StretchASU said:
Talk about negative equity.
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My first attempt fell thru.... I found out REAL damn fast how worthless a "used" diamond is. I think I bought a car stereo with the trade-in value :shaking:
 
tknopp said:
Buy a quality diamond. Even if its small. You can up grade later. You cant up grade a cheap poor quality one. Remember the "C's". Cut, color, clarity.
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Been researching diamonds for 2 years now to have the knowledge to not get worked at the jewelers and I still feel like I know nothing haha then she threw the curveball in of morganite main stone, and I was lost all over again!
 
CasterTroy said:
My first attempt fell thru.... I found out REAL damn fast how worthless a "used" diamond is. I think I bought a car stereo with the trade-in value :shaking:
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My wife was married once before me, her old ring was over huge, nobody cared about the diamonds. She basically got what the gold was worth for it, and she didn't sell it for a quick buck, shopped around for 3 years before she got a reasonable offer, still only got around 25% of original cost.
 
We didn't go the traditional route when it came to my ring. Joe jokingly agreed that he would spend as much on my ring as he did his snap-on toolbox...then he added side cabinets :lol:

We had dated for years & he knew my preferences but ultimately he let me pick my ring. I don't wear jewelry so he wanted to make sure it was something I was going to love & wear. He bought the Tacori platinum mount & I bought the center stone. I've had it 11 years & absolutely love it. Oh and I don't have a wedding band!

Sorry, I got sidetracked with my backstory. As far as size, it really doesn't matter. I opted for smaller size (.75), better quality. It all comes down to personal preference though.

It's dirty, but here's mine :bling:
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This is what I am doing. At some point. Maybe would work for You?

She has a family diamond, but I have no clue what style, size, setting and so on. A local jeweler has display rings that are fake stones, which are used to select just the ring when making a custom ring. Plan is take the diamond, after I can get the courage up to ask the parents for it, to the jeweler, borrow a faux ring to surprise her with, then let her pick the actual ring, setting, size and so on after she says yes....
Hopefully
 
I'm probably the wrong person to ask... @shawn and decided to get married while we were on a trip to Tellico. It was important to us to have family present and have a decent 'party', so planned the actual ceremony for 3 months out while the whole family was going to be at OBX for a week (beach ceremony and restaurant reception for ~45).

I'm not big on jewelry, so wanted it to be something I'd love... I didn't want a center stone to get caught on anything and ended up going with a pave eternity band. I do love still love it, a little over 14 years later, and wouldn't even be interested in an upgrade!

I bought him a ring, because I insisted on giving him one in return, but knew he was unlikely to wear it due to the possibility of losing the finger if something happened while working on the Bronco, etc. The silicone rings weren't a thing then but if they had been even I might have considered one.

Not criticizing anyone who feels differently, I appreciate pretty things, just didn't seem practical to wear or to spend the money. I kind of feel like the amount of money you have to spend, especially on the ring and ceremony, to keep someone 'happy' is inversely proportional to the effort people put into the relationship.

If she likes pink morganite and you insist on diamonds, get a pink center stone with some little diamonds on either side or something similar... sounds like you two can make a compromise you'll both like and I wish you both the very best for your future together!
 
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