Ideas to cheer some one up.

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My wife and I just had a baby boy on Thanksgiving and for the most part my wife has been cooped up in the house for the past three weeks w/ the new one and a two year old. I've been trying to hang around the house to help out but seems like I have more and more stuff to do away from home. Basically she's bored I think. So I'm just asking for some suggestions on a sweet/loving gesture I can do for her to help cheer her up. Any suggestions will be appreciated. thanks.
 
Get on the phone and make arranegemnts w/ a couple of her friends to stop by for awhile, complete surprise to her. Plan to be there and take care of teh kids for an hour or so while they just hang out and have "girl time".
 
Or, just let her have a few hours to herself, with out the kids.

I'd come home from work, get cleaned up and then tell her to leave, don't care where ya go, just come back, and don't spend all the money. I still do it from time to time.

Most times it's just the need for a break, but do research " Post Partum Depression " even a mild form takes it's toll.
 
I tried that w/my first wife. She appreciated it so much she wouldn't come home for days!
 
my suggestion.. if she likes movies get 2 passes and coupons for snacks.. arrange for a freind to come pick her up and take her out while you stay home and watch the kids..

if she does not like movies then do the same thing except replace movie tickets and coupons with maybe day at the spa, or pedicures, etc..

part of what they like is that you are taking care of the kids( so DO NOT send her out and have a baby sitter watch the kids)
 
Good on you for thinking and wanting to do this. I know after a weekend of watching the kids, you just want to have an adult conversion and some peace and quite.

It depends on what your Wife likes to do. Does she have a close friend to go do something with? Like the others said, kick her out of the house and tell her to go do something with an adult friend, or go to the book store by herself. Whatever she likes.

Oh and I have to disagree with RatLab, DON'T SURPRISE HER with company! Unless you can somehow get the house cleaned and her cleaned up and dressed for company. My wife would be pissed, but then she's not big on surprises.

Oh and then plan a night out just the two of you!
 
1. Netflix
2. Get her help (family/friends/church) to get a break. Maybe use it to take her to dinner/movie.
3. If the kids are on the bottle, let her get a pump and a hotel room for a weekend night. Sleep is a major league helper when it comes to the baby blues.
 
Thanks for all the great ideas guys. I'm kinda liking the movie w/ a friend idea. She does like movies but she's to cheap to spend the money on something like this. So if I got her coupons she'd have to go. If it wasn't snowing I'd do that tonight.

As far as the post pardum depression I think she had a tounch of it w/ the first one and was hoping to get through this one w/o it. I just hate to label something like this. But I know PPD is not uncommon. maybe if I utilize some of these ideas it will help her along.
Thanks.
 
Show her this thread, I'll bet it will atleast get a smile from her. At least it shows her you're thinking of her. Fill the tub with bubble bath and light a few candles and pour her a glass of wine, hand her a cell phone and tell her to call if she needs anything!
 
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