Try the new E3 tungsten. I've been using it on everything for a couple of years now, and so far, I've been impressed. It handles heat better than pure, balls the end better than 2% Thoriated, and works exceptionally well on DC, too. Grind a short bevel, truncate the tip to about half the diameter of the tungsten, then give it full pedal on a scrap piece to help it ball. I never liked the arc characteristics of 2% thor on AC. Pure tungsten works well, but I've been using the E3 so I only have to keep one alloy on hand. The 4043 is fine for general purpose aluminum.
You're going to be giving that 165 a workout doing much .250 AL! If you start building anything with much weld area, I think you're going to find yourself in thermal shutdown frequently if you don't mind your duty cycle. I used to use a Linc 175A squarewave machine, and I could warm it up on .125 AL. I think you've got a great machine for practice and small projects, but if you try to build a bumper, you're going to find the limitations very quickly! I know you do a lot of welding at the shop, though. If you have a hookup at the LWS, see if they can get you a bottle of 50-50% Ar/He. The helium really helps the dig on AC. Don't use it on DC, but it's a great way to get a low current welder to do things it wasn't really intended to do.