Best way to "deal with" a potential sexual predator

ManglerYJ said:
Unfortunately for us (the next generation of parents), the judicial system has changed and it allows the "victims" of what we all call good parenting (i.e. punishing by means of bruising said ass, locking the child in their rooms, breaking items in front of them like phones, computers, etc) can now seek protection from the court system via the SRO officer or guidance counselor at school. As was mentioned, girls (these two in particular) are excellent liars. They can string a tale of woe that could earn an Acadamy Award.
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That's where my folks say they'd rather go to jail for doing their job, instead of visiting me there. But now seeing you're the step dad, I understand that complicates things.
 
Blaze said:
My dad had a same problem with a guy like that and my sister, although it was a long time ago and before Facebook and cell phones. Calling the house, leaving letters for her, etc.
He came to the house once, my dad smashed his head on the front door and then literally threw him off the porch into the yard. Guy never came back.
It was pretty awesome, I remember telling him "nice distance" when I saw how far he threw the guy. :lol:
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My mom tells a story similar to this when she came home late one night and her 4 brothers pulled him out of his car and had their way with the guy in the front yard. She said he would never speak to her again.

Ahh, the good ole days. Now days there would have been lawsuits.:shaking:
 
Papa_Jon said:
As a father of 4 girls.. I have dealt with this allot, ...... Not so best way: ( The way I use ) Find guy don't say anything walk up drop his chester azz, Then tell him who you are and next time it be worst....
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ROFL
 
At 16 she is not in control of her emotion or her body, Mother nature is handle it behind the scenes then after everything is settle and she has moved on to her next life changing F' up. No one will think about it again, But you got to get the guy to leave her alone.. You WILL NEVER get her to leave him alone..
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I think it sends the wrong message if you say that she is not in any way responsible for her actions, but he is responsible for his own actions as well as hers. That's b.s. She has to learn or she'll never be an adult.
 
At 16 a young lady will only learn if not forced too.
She is a hormonal mess, They don't not think things though they act on feelings.
I am not say do nothing to her but a grown ass man should know not to mess with a kid.
HE is 100% responsible for his action and hers as the ADULT.
Do you blame a 5 year old kid for stealing gum when he is told by adult that it is OK?
16 old girl is not thinking clear she is very influenceable.
I bet she does nothing with him cause Bet she morals but you got to think of the worst in cases like this.
The days of a parents beating the hell out of there kids are done, I am all for spanking a kid and think schools should have the right too. Some cases need a different approach
 
Your in a tough spot and visiting with the guy after work or at his home, being stern and not threatening would be a good start. In TN, an adult male dating a underage girl can have real consequences. So, monitor it and see if it is really just a phone/faebook affair as kids are pretty brazen with virutal friends. I am serious about birth control though..
 
Rub some poision ivy in all of her underwear the week before she is supposed to meet him.
 
rockman said:
Your in a tough spot and visiting with the guy after work or at his home, being stern and not threatening would be a good start. In TN, an adult male dating a underage girl can have real consequences. So, monitor it and see if it is really just a phone/faebook affair as kids are pretty brazen with virutal friends. I am serious about birth control though..
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My wife has always said that she will get her girls on the pill when they ask for it, and to do so they will have to admit that they want to be or are sexually active. None of this crap of "I just want to regulate my period" or whatever. Her stance is that if you can't admit what you are doing and why you are doing it, then you shouldn't be doing it and deserve the consequences. Perhaps not the most sound thinking, but it is what it is.

With her older sister, it didn't work. She lied about being sexually active even when she was almost 3 months pregnant. All the while, my wife knew what time it was. She had her baby and even though the baby daddy was a p.o.s., she gave him his last name. He eidn't even want to show up to the hospital - his mom had to bring him. He saw the baby 5 times in the 23 days of his life. It was pouring down rain the night she was driving home from his place when she wrecked and he was carried away in the stream. I will probably come accross as an a$$hole saying so, but it really is the best possible outcome after seeing how he has treated her before and after his death. I actually prayed that very morning that something - ANYTHING would get inbetween her and the baby daddy. God has a funny way of making things happen even if it rips your heart out in the process.
 
Wow that's some crazy shit to say on an internet forum...


Also, I imagine mom calling him out at work will probably fix things...otherwise on the upside, at least he's got a decent job and isn't a giant shitbag. Think positive!
 
This is a difficult situation & I hope everything works out for the best. I'm probably not the best to weigh in on this particular subject since I'm 26 & my husband is 34...and we met 9 years ago.
 
It would appear that it worked. There was a very brief conversation via text (she is going on a church retreat out of state, so we felt she needed her phone) yesterday afternoon - most likely him explaining that his job may be at risk - and then nothing since. She posted on Facebook how upset she was and she wanted to crawl in a hole. No further details. I think a church retreat is the best possible place for her to cope with this. We know the youth pastor well and he and his wife are well versed in teenage drama.

We shall see.

I know that there are many examples of this kind of thing playing out well with a 16 year old and a 25 year old. We have some good friends who are medical missionaries in Africa that started out this way. On the other hand, the news is riddled with cases that did not end well. My money is on the latter, and if it was meant to be, it will wait 2 more years.
 
Snakes crawl at night.
Always have an alibi
Walk up to him in front of his peers. Kiss him right in the mouth. Let him know that anything he does with your underage daughter, you will do the same to him.

Snakes crawl at night. People tend to change their actions when they have busted knee caps.............Just sayin.
And yes, I am old school
 
ManglerYJ said:
It would appear that it worked. There was a very brief conversation via text (she is going on a church retreat out of state, so we felt she needed her phone) yesterday afternoon - most likely him explaining that his job may be at risk - and then nothing since. She posted on Facebook how upset she was and she wanted to crawl in a hole. No further details. I think a church retreat is the best possible place for her to cope with this. We know the youth pastor well and he and his wife are well versed in teenage drama.
We shall see.
I know that there are many examples of this kind of thing playing out well with a 16 year old and a 25 year old. We have some good friends who are medical missionaries in Africa that started out this way. On the other hand, the news is riddled with cases that did not end well. My money is on the latter, and if it was meant to be, it will wait 2 more years.
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Thats good to hear. In the future, if you need any services of a sleeper agent I am for hire!
 
upnover said:
Walk up to him in front of his peers. Kiss him right in the mouth.
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This works!

I had a much younger, bigger guy get all puffed up at me in a restaurant a few years ago. He was standing beside my table making a big scene.
I told him if he didn't sit down and shut up I was gonna stand up and kiss him on the mouth right there in the middle of the restaurant in front of God and everybody. His eyes got real big and he looked at me for a second, turned around and walked off.

Matt
 
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