Look at the Avalon area of Kill Devil Hills . It is mostly beach houses and is pretty low key. It is close to all of the restaurants , and any shopping you may need to do. It is a short ride up to Corolla (beware the traffic in duck) where you will find the horses (typically back on Ocean Pearl not on the beach) and beach driving. Currituck lighthouse is worth the few bucks to climb and the Whalehead club/Outer Banks Center for Wildlife Education next door are also pretty neat.
Kill Devil Hills is also close to Nags Head , Manteo , Jockeys Ridge ( go to the back entrance off of West Soundside) and Oregon Inlet. If you make it down to Oregon Inlet you might as well run down to Hatteras with a stop at Bodie Island along the way. Stop at the Orange Blossom bakery in Buxton if you're down there , the Apple Uglies are crazy good. The Cape Hatteras lighthouse is a nice stop and its amazing to see how far they moved it. Once you're that far South you might as well take the ferry to Ocracoke , just make sure to check the schedule and allow for delays as the tourists love the free ferry. The Ocracoke lighthouse is the humble one of the bunch , but is well worth the visit. The British Cemetery is humbling and if you are a history buff worth the stop.
Places I eat are Tortuga's Lie , Johns Drive In , The Rundown , Goombays , Chile Peppers, Dare Devils Pizza , Sam and Omies , and if you want a ridiculous buffet that actually has good seafood Captain Georges is your spot. Kill Devils frozen custard has good frozen treats and Duck Donuts is also worth checking out. If you head North to go home through Elizabeth City the Coinjock Marina serves great food at a reasonable price as well.
I grew up there and still go back home a few times a year. There are a ton of other things to see and places to eat but this is what catches my attention even after all these years.
We take 58 through Virginia down through Elizabeth City via 17 to get there and typically come back through Manteo on 264 just so we can see something different each way. The main road that goes South through Currituck is 158 and it is awful Friday afternoons and Saturdays .
Hope this helps.